Your Woman is Your Queen
Do you want to show your lady how special you are to them. Do you want to boost your sex life. Do you want them to look at you in a new way. Well here's how
- First thing you need to do is put your arms around you lady while you sleep and hold her close to you. This makes your woman feel secure and safe. Most couples probably sleep with thier back towards each other every night. As you put your arms around her while you sleep get real close to her so she can feel your body up against hers. Sometimes its better to hold your women and not expect sex. This is one of the best things because it shows her evertime you hold her you don't expect sex. She will remember this in the morning especially if she wakes up with your arms around her. Today you are going to do this just to show her you will always be there for her. Do you know how many women just want a man to hold them at night.
- Next you need to get up earlier than usual and clean the house and serve your woman breakfast in bed. Don't just throw things together take your time and even try to decorate her plate. When you wake up her give a kiss and tell her how special she is to you. If you have enough time write her a poem just to let her know she's special. Tell her something like I stopped bye to let you know. I married and angel with, perfections glow. First you fine tuned my heart, to let it melt like snow, and now I jump rainbows just to be in love with you forever more. This is how you soften any resentment or negative feelings she may have had for you. If you cant write poems write down 10 things you love about her.
- All throughout the day do what she wants. Ask her first thing in the morning what can I do to make your day perfect. Let her know today I don't want you to cook or clean I just want you to be my queen. Clean the house for her the entire day and cook or take her out to eat. Continue to kiss her and let her know how much you love her. Take out to get her toe, nails, and her done. She will not know what to think. Your lady will probably be saying to herself who is this man I married I hope he stays. When you go out in public open doors for her, and hold her hands. Give her a kiss as she get's out the car. Kiss her in public as well. There plenty of women out there that would love for their man to kiss them in public. Why don't enough men do this. If you don't soomeone else will. Hint Hint!!
Win Her Heart With Romance
Men have a big problem with romance. Here is the generic scenario: You meet a beautiful woman whom you want to make the future mother of your offspring. You expend an inordinate amount of effort in order to convince her of your potential worth as a partner.
You forget to eat. You forget to sleep. You almost lose your job over her. You extend one romantic gesture after another. And in the end, you get the girl. Her heart is in the palm of your hand. She is all over you now. Life is sweet. You have found your dream woman.
But now the chase is over. Like a panther on the prowl, you have captured your prey and satiated your hunger. Now content, you laze away in the shade, lethargic and in a trance. You have lost your drive to please her. Your focus was to win her over and now that she has been won, you feel like the mission is complete.
You Snooze, You Lose Her
My advice is to wake up or lose your woman to a player with charm and finesse. Despite your total state of oblivion, she is alert to your lack of effort. It may not kick in from the start, but the female sense of neglect is acute. If you want to avoid the pitfall of so many other men before you, the time for romance is now. Shape up or your woman will ship out.
Now my advice is not for men to kneel and beg, or spoil and shower a woman with an overabundance of material loot. I do however, advocate attention, affection and consideration. That triumvirate is more valuable than any gift you can ever give her -- and more effective.
A regular dose of romance will invigorate your relationship and fuel her love and desire for you. There is no valid reason not to treat the woman you love like a queen. Why take her for granted? Some men seem to equate the latter with proof of their masculine identity. What a load of bull.
If you feel emasculated by romance, you need the counsel of a therapist. And your woman should leave you for a man who can appreciate her. Tough pill to swallow? Read on to avoid that harsh lesson.
The key to romance is spontaneity. If she can predict your move, your gesture will lose effect fast. Sure the thought is important but your mission is to blow her away, not get credit for a lame attempt at romance so you can cross it off your list. You need to be inventive and use the element of surprise to your advantage. The more "male" you are in her book, the better. Because the "typical man" is not romantic by nature, correct?
So do what you do to maintain your masculine mystique. Watch football, drink beer, ogle (I prefer the term "appreciate") women, and forget the occasional double date with her sister and brother-in-law. No problem. In fact, the more "male" you behave, the better. Because when you present her with a rose and a love card or surprise her with dinner at her favorite restaurant, you demonstrate how complex you are.
You can be it all and have it all..
A one-dimensional man? Not you. You may cherish NFL Sunday but you treat her to an afternoon at a spa. You shoot pool with your boys but you come home and give her a foot rub. You play basketball once a week but after the game you forgo the bar and take her out to a show. You write out a list of food she should buy at the store but you also write her a poem and slip it into her lunch before work.
Now the examples I cite are just that -- examples. You may have your own spin on how to enhance your relationship with romance. Good for you. Take the initiative and get creative. The secret is to shock her system.
Where Men Have Failed
This is where many men falter. They either fail at romance to begin with or they inundate the relationship with it. It may look good on paper but when you spoil your woman with romance, you lose that edge.
Romance should be natural and (here I go again) impulsive. A friend of mine used to treat his girl when they went out. He paid every single time . After a while, she became used to it and when the bill came, she would not even attempt to reach for her purse.
His need to "take care of her" and appear romantic was a major disaster. Before long, he transformed his woman into a high maintenance diva. Not content with a dinner tab, she began to hint at more. Before I could advise him otherwise, he accelerated his generosity to include an afternoon at the mall and the occasional weekend in New York or Paris.
My friend lost control and in the end, lost his woman. Many men forget that there is a limit to romance; his behavior ceased to qualify as such, as it graduated to blatant excess and indulgence. Minimize the romance and keep it fresh. A weekend in Paris is a great way to show her you care but do it once a year at the most or you will be taken for granted
Spoil Her, Ruin The Relationship
Romance is a way to entice and induce her to notice that you care. You have to play the game with patience in order to curb her level of enthusiasm. You want her to anticipate romance but not expect it. That is a fine line to navigate but worth the effort because if you spoil her, the result, believe it or not, is that her love for you will decline. A crazy notion but a fact.
If she can set her clock by your effort at romance, you are dead in the water. Do not allow her to rely on it. Tease her, tantalize her and string her along. And then, when her attention is elsewhere and her mind is on another matter, bring home a puppy. Or chocolate. Fill the apartment with candles, rose petals and draw a bubble bath. Have a violinist come over and play for her while you dine on a gourmet meal.
Whatever you decide, set yourself apart from the pack and be the romantic prince she always dreamed of as a girl. Once in a while at least.