Are you tired of dating? Whether you are dating different men or the same man, it tends to get old after a period of time. Especially so if you want to get married and start a family. The only problem is you cannot get a man to ask for your hand in marriage. Why is this the case? After all you are an attractive, independent woman who has goals and a pretty good head on your shoulder; in other words...you are a good catch for any man. So you think. Here's a little eye opener for you. Men smell desperation in a woman. If you are trying too hard to cart him off to the wedding chapel - you are totally ruining your chances of getting that ring on your finger. Desperation, neediness and insecurity are not appealing qualities; they are attraction killers. You lessen your chances of getting that ring by saying things such as: "I need to know where this relationship is going?" Or "I am not getting any younger and I don't want to waste my time." It may seem perfectly normal for you to say these things, but it signals to the man that he is being rushed, pushed or even manipulated into marriage because you feel that marriage is owed to you. No one wants to feel under obligation to marry. This now makes for an uncomfortable dating situation and guess what...he will be out of that pressure cooker environment in no time. Women place a lot of emphasis on beauty, looking and feeling their best; there is certainly nothing wrong with this. In fact, men greatly appreciate and admire attractive, intelligent women. However, attractiveness nor brain matter will in itself get the ring on your finger. Too many women believe that if she is a sex kitten and caters to his every desire, whether in the bedroom or outside of it; this will somehow ensure a walk down the "red carpet." But he does not want "sugar and spice and everything always nice." This approach will not get the true commitment you desire, and certainly not the ring..
Illustration from Clyde Mendes column at MetroSexual LA