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| || || | If you are in a relationship, whether you are a man or a woman, you should know the five things that every woman needs from her man. Surely there are other needs that could be added to this list, but I believe that these five "needs" are important to the success of your relationship.
If you are a man, work at providing them. If you are a woman, know that things will not go well if your man doesn't see the value in providing you with these five things.
- A woman needs to feel appreciated.
Now you might be surprised that I don't start with her need for love. Most men will say, "I love you." But they just might not appreciate their woman in the way she wants to be appreciated.
Feeling appreciation is such an important part of a woman's make-up. So many women are "givers" in that they do their best to meet the needs of the husbands and children. But even a giver needs to know that her efforts are appreciated.
Now guys, it isn't enough for you to appreciate your wife or girlfriend, if you don't tell her. Many guys will say, "Well, she knows I appreciate her." That may be true, but there is something so nice about occasionally having that appreciation be put into words. Try statements like: "I love the way you fix yourself up for me." Or, "I really do appreciate the way you work so hard."
But we all have a tendency to take our loved ones for granted. So you must make the effort to look at your lover and ask yourself what you like about her. Then tell her. We all like words of appreciation.
- A woman needs to share a deep emotional bond with her man.
Now what do I mean by that? Women love it when they see that their man is in touch with his feelings. By that they enjoy knowing that you have feelings and that you are not ashamed to share them.
Many men have a hard time "opening up" to women. Maybe they don't like to talk much. Or they just don't like "touchy, feely" sorts of topics. When asked how they feel, they simply go into the "no comment" mode. If this is your natural approach to communication, you will be missing a serious and important part of your woman's needs, because a woman needs to know your feelings. She also needs to feel that the two of you have a deep emotional connection.
When I was dating my wife (to be), she commented to me what she really liked was the fact that I understood her. She loved the fact that I listened to her feelings and validated them. She also liked the fact that I was willing to open up and share my own feelings when we talked. We quickly became "best friends" while we were dating.
The best relationships are usually based upon a deep and strong emotional connection between the lovers. If she feels like you're listening to what she has to say, and that you can open up, you will be miles ahead of most other guys.
- A woman wants you to feel that she is feminine and sexy.
This is so logical, but it is surprising how many men have a tough time communicating their feelings about how they view their woman. Do you find her attractive and feminine? Do you find her sexy? Then tell her.
There are so many creative ways to tell your woman that you find her attractive. Surprise her with a loving gaze when she is busy doing something routine (like making dinner). Smile at her when she asks you a question (be so carried away with her that you almost don't hear the question). Wink at her in the middle of a crowded room.
You should also make a point of telling her directly how you feel. At a party, you might whisper in her ear: "You are the best looking woman in the room." Saying such things at a moment when everyone is preoccupied and put a sparkle in her eyes knowing that the two of you have your own special connection.
Women are extremely verbal. They love it when a man talks to them in a sexy way. Tell her the sexy things you like about her. Whisper them in her ear when she least expects to hear those words (like in the middle of a movie or in a crowded elevator).
Words can be VERY sexy to a woman. Be descriptive and provocative when you talk to her. Say something like, "I love the way your blonde hair shines in the glow of the setting sun" . . . "Do you know how good you make that black dress look? It would be nothing without your incredible figure inside."
Don't say something that you don't mean or feel. Most women sense flattery quickly. When you flatter, you are telling someone what they want to hear, but which you don't believe. Flattery can hurt your relationship.
On the other side of the coin, women, if your man tells you that you look sexy, smile and accept the compliment graciously. Nothing is more frustrating that to be with a woman of low self-esteem who retorts to your compliments with responses like, "Oh, come on. You know that I'm not really that good looking." Learn how to graciously receive his compliments and you'll get many more.
- A man who knows how to be romantic.
What does it mean to be romantic? Years ago I actually wrote a book called "Romance" for teenagers, and doing the research for it told me many things. Romance is a state of mind. Its finding the love and the joy in a relationship when everyone else is missing it. Romance is taking the time to notice the little things, like how your woman looks or how much you appreciate her. But even more important, its taking the time and doing something about it.
No matter what your personality, you can be romantic if you make the effort. Many women love a man who read (or better yet, write) poetry. It doesn't have to rhyme, just put your thoughts and feelings into verse and surprise her with a note.
Why do flowers make such a big impact upon a woman? I believe it is because they are such a temporary and even frivolous purchase. They'll often say something like, "Oh, you shouldn't have." But that's precisely why they appreciate them so much. They see that you are willing to "waste" your money on those fragrant blossoms knowing that you will make her day. And that's romantic.
- A woman needs a man who won't take her grief.
Many women will purposely call themselves a "high maintenance." What they mean by this is that they should have the right to be self-centered. Any man who puts up with selfishness is not doing her any favors. When a woman acts in a self-focused way, she will feel a certain amount of guilt, and in the end she won't have a lot of respect for you for letting her act so childish.
All of us need to be held accountable for our actions. Any man who lets a woman get away with being self-focused, will find that he has created a monster. It is far better to call her on her immaturity then let her play that game. Take my word for it, she will love you far more if you refuse to put up with any grief from her. You don't want to end up becoming her servant.
One of the foundation stones of a good relationship is respect. If a woman stops trusting her man, he has begun the process that will end up killing their relationship. As hard as it might be, you must "be the man" and tell her clearly that you expect her to treat you with respect. In return, you will treat her with respect. And whenever she does something that is out of line or out of this character, you'll call her on it, in the same way you would expect her to call you on your behavior if you act in a way that does not respect her.
Dejected Lovers Looking For How to Cope With a Break Up
Breaking up can turn a person's world upside down, leaving them dejected and wondering how to cope with a break up. You might have pent up feelings of anger, frustration and sorrow, but we need to trigger the negative emotions out, making way for a more positive perspective. The first thing you need to do is to accept the separation and give vent to your emotions. Yes, its ok to cry!
There can be several examples stated on how to cope with a break up, but all of them have a common goal-changing yourself. Remember there is still a lot more to life and heal yourself by nurturing positive emotions and creative energies. Reconnect with your friends and people who love you and talk your frustrations out.
Go out and mingle with new people. Remember sad songs and movies will not guide you on how to cope with a break up, but building relationships will heal you a lot faster. Stay calm and relaxed and take up a new activity or hobby to while away your time. Share your pains with friends and family and start developing a whole new personality within yourself. Avoid using drugs or drinks to get over this phase and fill your life with events and positive cheers for a more enriching experience.
You can always contact professional support for guidance on how to cope with a break up. Do not stalk your ex, but try and move on. Discard all negative things about the relationship, holding on to precious memories. Try to go on a small vacation to lift your spirits, or do something you had planned for a long time.
Get organized and maintain a schedule for your activities. Learn to let go of anger, fear and hatred. Indulge yourself in spoilt pleasures and treat yourself to the good life. Remember that time heals all pains and be ready to move on more confidently towards new bonds with your friends.
Learn to forgive your enemies and get over the past. Connect to the depths of your heart to rebuild a new and winning identity. Remember, you can have several theories on how to cope with a break up, but the ultimate power lies with you!
Are Obese Men A Dejected Lot?
Unfortunate but true. Obese men often happen to be the laughter stock in the society. Being dejected often push them into depression and often they are the victims of worst nature. Here are some psychological and physical problems that obese men often suffer from.
Being Mocked At
men are often mocked at for their excessive girth and size. In other words, their very existence becomes a joke. They are mocked upon for their looks. No matter how many grey cells they possess, the physical dimensions always overshadow everything else.
Food And Just Junk Food
In a vicious cycle, obese men often turn to food for comfort resulting in further obesity. Junk food outlets are often flooded with obese people. Burgers, French fries, peanut butter et al are all comfort food. This comfort diet further pushes them towards gaining more weight. Chocolate is again a sinful and high calorie comfort food. If experts are to be believed then it is said that obesity can checked if chocolates are banned. Excessive chocolates intake symbolizes inherent depression.
Lack Of Appeal
Looks matter in all spheres. As a result of their lack of confidence often their personality lacks appeal. Since they are almost always laughed at their confidence and presentation skills too get rusted. A lonesome human can never carve his personality in the absence of social gathering.
Weight Issues Lead To Lack Of Drive
The weight kills the drive and confidence of the sexual drive. Obese men often suffer from dysfunction of erection and they also shy away from discussing the issue. They are afraid to visit the doctor and at the same time, shy away from discussing the topic with partner. In such situation, it is advisable to go for the reliable pill shopping for siagra pills. The convenience of shopping online saves them the embarrassment of asking for it over the counter. Thus obese men are the worst sufferers of the current generation affected by depression.
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