Wanna Charm Your Lover

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Wanna Charm Your Lover


How can you charm a woman?

Do they like a daily check-in phone call? Does she secretly wish you'd text her in the middle of the day for no reason but to make her smile? Do they prefer expensive dinners to home-cooked meals? Rock-hard abs? Flowers for no reason?

Identifying women's turn-ons is complicated, because they all react differently. Some women you wish came with owner's manuals so you knew exactly how they were wired. Luckily, I've done most of the legwork for you and am happy to pass this knowledge on to you.

  • Be aware. This means cracking open more than the sports section on the daily paper. Be up on current events and learn the difference between feelings, emotions and thoughts. Women are emotional beings and tend to think things through.


    They are attracted to men who are as smart or smarter than them, and your knowledge of worldly matters will demonstrate your intelligence.

  • Demonstrate humor. Women love a man who can make them laugh. Now don't fret here if you're not a stand-up comedian. We all have a certain type of humor. You can be dry, sarcastic, hilariously funny, quick-witted or dark. Being able to poke fun at yourself and just plain old being goofy is a turn-on for women. Keep in mind that all women are not attracted to the same type of humor, so if you don't vibe, just walk away and try someone else.

  • Have passion. A guy who lives his life with gusto is incredibly appealing. When you speak to a woman about your life, your travels, your job, your interests, speak with passion. That passion about who you are will turn her on instantly. She will start to imagine what it will be like when you are involved with her and how passionate you will speak about her.

  • Be considerate. Pay attention to the little things and look for opportunities to make small gestures that show you care. A simple "How was your day?" and being able to listen to her when she wants to discuss something are huge. So many men forget about simple things like holding the door, paying for her valet or just thanking her for a great time last night. Women are all about a guy with manners -- she is not attracted to the dope who acts like a caveman.

  • Be honest. Share who you are by telling her something personal. Maybe share one of your favorite childhood memories or some personal growth that you have been going through. Something that will show her that you are a trusting and honest person. It also shows that you are a confident but vulnerable man. Women love to see the vulnerable side of you. Note: Don't talk about an ex in a bad way here. If you have to talk about an ex, do so in a positive manner and share what you learned and how you grew from the relationship.

  • Be flexibile. Be open to her plans but surprise her with your flexibility. Take charge and surprise her with a fun night out. Instead of being the typical guy who makes a reservation, think about how you can be the guy who listens to her and plans a great date that she did not expect. If you can pull this off, she will be open to all sorts of advances from you.

  • Be positive. If you are positive about life, it shows in your actions. I always tell men to be extra nice to waiters, bartenders and other service people. Be a courteous driver when she's in the car. When you are in line at the movies, don't complain. Look for the humor and try to have fun with people all around you. Be positive about everything, and she will find you to be very sexy and alluring. No one wants to be with a negative hothead.

  • Be balanced. Women love a successful, ambitious man. They love that you work hard, but if you constantly put work ahead of her she will become turned off. She will start to imagine what life with you will be like with her needs being ignored. If you are out meeting women to date, you need to balance your life between work and play. This will be a major turn-on for her.

  • Have ambition. Men who are ambitious about what they do are a turn-on to women. It doesn't matter if you choose to be a rich stock trader or a painter, as long as you are passionate about who you are and what you do. If you don't love what you do, find something that really turns you on. You can't attract the woman you want with a negative ambition. Women love a man who is the best at what he does.

  • Be attentive. You are out with her for the very first time, and she tells you she loves a certain type of music. On the next date take her to a lounge that plays that type of music. It is all about paying attention to the details and working on your listening skills.

    This list of 10 things will work in most cases. Keep in mind there is always the woman who you just can't seem to please. If you happen to cross paths with this type of woman, ask yourself, "Why would I want to be with a woman who is so difficult?"

I tend to avoid the difficult, judgmental women. Knowing women's turn-ons and putting them into practice will help you identify women who may be relationship material. You need to realize that you want to attract and turn on the women that are attracted to you on an equal level!



  1. Looks are not the first thing a woman looks for when choosing mate. For example, how many times have you seen someone that is not so great looking with a good looking woman? I have seen it, many of times. So this may be good news for some. A woman knows within seconds of looking at someone that may be mate material. So before you can charm her, you are going to get her attention first. I will show you how.

  2. When looking for a mate, a lady will look for many, many things. She will asses him right away, and not even know it. She will look at his cleanliness, over all health, confidence, friendliness, and stamina, among many, many other things. The first thing you want is confidence. If you do not have it, learn it.

  3. Make sure you are well groomed and clean.

  4. Be friendly, this will show her that you are not going to hurt her. She wants someone that may be intimidating if need be, to others, but not her. Don't get me wrong, you are not going into a place dogging others out, this is a no, no. You should carry yourself with good posture, and look others in the eye. Never become aggressive though. You should make this impression on her within the first few seconds you meet her, this is when it is very important.

  5. Now that you have her attention, you may relax a little. You should first off listen to her, and listen good, ask her questions. Females are of talking nature, so you should have good verbal communication skills.

  6. Never look clingy, too exited, just remember, cool, calm, and collective. This will help you quite a bit.

  7. Show her you are interested, just not over interested. You want to give her the impression that their are other females that can be interesting, besides her, without verbalizing it, or starring to hard at other females. You do not want her to think that she can have you anytime she wants too, because let's face it, sometimes people want something that may be in reach, but just out of reach, if you can understand this, you are doing fine.

  8. When you decide you have found someone that you are going to go on a date with, smile often, and listen allot. You should ask many interesting questions, but nothing too personal. Offer a little information on your self. You may give more information later. Remember, that a lady loves to verbalize. If you give her a compliment, start off small. Leave her wanting more. Say something like," you have the most adorable laugh." You may compliment more later.

  9. Be a gentleman. Open her doors for her, show her that she is lady.

  10. After you have followed the steps above, you have charmed her just enough, to make it just right. You may then proceed to taking her places you will both enjoy, and just have fun. Later you may do things like surprise her with special gifts or notes to let her know you are thinking about her. Never over do it, though. You should never over do it though.

  11. Communication is very important to a lady. You should have good communication and listening skills, never forget this. Best of luck to you!

How to Charm a Man

Do you wish you were more confident, more sexy or more charming? It's not as hard as you think! Just relax and follow these simple steps and you will be on your way to being that entrancing woman that men can't get enough of!

  1. Love Yourself - Nothing is more attractive than self confidence! Think you're nothing special? Remember this...


    Someone once said, no matter what you look like or what you think is wrong with you, there is someone out there who thinks that you are the most beautiful woman in the world, to whom you are the perfect ideal of beauty.


    Realize your beauty and carry yourself with confidence!

  2. Have Passion - Men love a woman who is about something. Every man wants a woman who is devoted to him, but when a woman has her own life, her own hobbies, her own passion, she gets that irresistible sparkle (and that self confidence that we were talking about!) When you start really pursuing your passion, you radiate happiness and your positive energy will draw in everyone around you!

  3. Smile - So let's talk about happiness. Sometimes life sucks. Sometimes you have cramps and somebody cut you off in traffic and you can't pay your cell phone bill. Now, smile. No, REALLY smile. Smile like you are greeting your favorite person in the world. We think we have to feel good to smile, but the truth is smiling when you feel like hell will actually begin to make you feel good.


    CHALLENGE! Next time you are in a bad mood, make a vow to yourself that you will smile like a beauty queen for five minutes, whether you feel like it or not. I bet that you can't act happy and smiley for five minutes without starting to feel better.

  4. Stop interrupting! Yes, you. Let him talk. Until he's done. Even if you think you know the rest of what he's going to say. Zip it!

ALL men want to feel like they are the most interesting man in the world.


By being the girl that honors him enough to just shut the hell up and listen to what he says like it is really important, you will win a golden place in his heart.


How to Charm Your Dream Man

Have you found the man of your dreams, but are not sure that he feels the same way about you as you feel about him? Are you dying to know how to make him adore you, but just not sure of how to go about it? If so, read the following to learn what you need to do to charm him.


Understand what today's men are looking for


In the past, when a typical man was ready to settle down with one woman, he was looking for one who had the potential to be a good mother and knew how to cook and sew and keep house and entertain his friends. That made it fairly simple.


Today's men, however, have different criteria for finding an ideal partner. They may still want a woman who would make a good mother, but they also look for financial independence, self-confidence, a sense of humor and a high level of intelligence. No longer are they content to be the sole breadwinners and chief opinion-expressers in the family. They want a partner who is a true equal.


In some ways, this makes it easier for a woman to express her true self. In others, though, it makes it more difficult to figure out exactly what her man is looking for in a mate.


Decipher male psychology


Today's woman not only has to live up to the new standards, she has to understand what it is that makes a man tick. Guys need and expect women to understand them, and that is a real challenge. Most of us grow up with a preconceived notion of what it is that men want, but much of that no longer applies. What is a woman to do?


Most of us know what we have to do to attract a man in the first place - how to dress, how to show off our best features, and how to flirt without coming on too strongly. But after you've gotten his attention, how do you proceed to the next step - that of making him adore you? For that, you will need to delve a little more deeply into male psychology in general and into what makes your particular guy tick in particular.


There are plenty of books available on the subject of male psychology. You can read some to better understand men in general. To understand your man, though, you will need to study him, too. Find out his likes and dislikes, his good and bad traits and what he expects from you.


Men don't necessarily understand, themselves, what makes them tick but they expect the women in their lives to be able to figure it out. If you are able to do this, you are well on the way to understanding how to make him adore you.

http://tinyurl.com/yhozc3h How to Regain the Love and Charm in Your Relationship

A relationship is a bond between two persons and requires both party to put in some effort in order for it to work. However, sometimes things may happen and you have no control over them. These can have negative effects on your relationship and can even cause your partner to breakup with you. But not so fast! Not if you follow a proven plan to make things go back to normal. Right now you can make your relationship last and get even better than before. Below are some advice that you may want to adhere to if you want to keep your partner in your arms where he/she belongs.

  1. Attack the problem as soon as it starts

     If there is some for of fuss or quarrel developing between you and your partner for whatever reason, try to ease back and let things cool. Don't try to say something hurtful to your partner because that will only make thing worse. What you should so is wait a little and once both of you have cooled down, be the fist to go and apologize to him/her. A short and simple apology can really turn things around and put a smile on your partners face once again.

  2. Make partner know that you love and appreciate him/her

     You may tell your partner that you love him or her everyday but do you really show it? As the popular saying goes "action speak louder than words" so you need to put out an effort to let your partner know that they are appreciated for who they are and what they have done for you. It is not about buying him or her the world, sometimes it's the simplest things that matters most.

  3. Focus on your self as well

     You are now in a relationship, but are you taking some things for granted? You know what I mean? Are you not living up to the standards that you met your partner with in the first place? Remember how you tried to impress him/her when you just met? Try to bring back that flavor to the relationship. Take some time to get a nice hairstyle, go to the gym if you have to or even get a new wardrobe. These little things matters and can be the line between a healthy and happy relationship of a relationship that is boisterous and may even break.

How to charm and spoil a man

Are you wondering how to keep the romantic spark lit in your relationship? Charm your man with these simple ideas. He will feel appreciated, pampered, and even spoiled.

  1. They say the way to a man's heart is through his stomach, and it couldn't be more true. I seduced my amazing husband with homemade lasagna. Whatever your killer recipe is, now is the time to use it. If cooking doesn't work for you, find the BEST chinese or take out place in town and serve it up on nice dishes.

  2. Be thoughtful and creative. Watch the sun come up together. Breakfast in bed with the morning paper is always a great way to spoil your man. You can also try to find out more about whatever his interests are - sports, politics, computers, etc. Learn how to appreciate watching sports is a great idea, but if you're not into that, try step 3 instead.

  3. Suggest to host a couple of his friends over to watch the game, and you make some snacks and leave them alone. Have lots of cold beer on hand, and believe me -- he will LOVE this!

  4. Put yourself in his shoes. How would you feel after a long day at work, mowing the lawn, taking out the garbage, etc? Find ways to show your appreciation for everything he does for you.


Illustration from Clyde Mendes column at  MetroSexual LA


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Comment on this post

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I don't know why attracting women is so mysterious for some men. Women like men who display: leadership, confidence, a I dont give a crap attitiude, mixed with strenght and popularity. It is easier
said than done, but that is the basic idea.

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