One of the biggest challenges for teens is their relationship with their parents. Mom and Dad have one idea about how you are supposed to act and follow the rules, but you want to grow up and start making your own decisions. Many teens find that they want to follow the commandment to "honor thy father and mother," but the actual practice is more difficult and complicated. So, what are some things you can do to develop a Godly relationship with your parents?
Spend Time Together
Many teens groan when it comes to spending time with their parents, because they just don't feel that their parents understand them very well. Maybe it is time for you to plan family night. Try cooking your parents dinner or picking out a game for the entire family to play. You may even want to create a night when you all pray or do a devotional together. While you don't have to spend all your time with your parents, spending some time with them allows you to get to know one another better.
Share your feelings and ask for help. Many kids say they'd like their parents to help them when they're upset. But your mom or dad might not know that you're having a problem. Tell a parent if you're sad or struggling with something. If you don't usually do this, it can feel funny at first. Try it and you'll be glad you did.Talk to Your Mom and Dad
Talk to Your Mom and Dad
Another difficulty for teens is opening up to their parents about what is going on in their lives. Yet, when you talk to your parents about some of the things that are going on in your life it allows them to see how you are growing up and becoming more responsible. It also helps them feel more connected to you because they feel involved.
Show You Care
Showing affection is not easy for every family. Some teens grow up in households where everyone is hugging and kissing or telling each other, "I love you," while others are not very "touchy-feely." However, you can show you care about your mom and dad in your own way by at least being polite, caring, and thoughtful.
Little things might mean a lot to your mom or dad. You can brighten a parent's day with a hug, a card, or a joke. It's also lovely when a kid offers to help fold the laundry or cleans up his or her room without being asked. And if you try not to fight with your brothers or sisters, your parents might be so thrilled they'll do a silly dance around the kitchen!
When you are trying to get along with your mom and dad it can be hard for you to keep your cool when you aren't getting your way. Sometimes the best way to get along with your parents is to make compromises. Try to put yourself in your parents' shoes. Then come up with a solution that will fit what your parents need from you and what you need.
Keep Your Cool
Many teens end up having "temper tantrums" when they try to have a conversation with their parents. Arguments usually come from a lack of understanding. Next time you talk to your parents, try to ask them questions to understand where they are coming from and remember to share what you are thinking so they can understand you.
Take Your Disappointments Elsewhere
Frustration with your parents is normal. One great outlet teens have is prayer. God is always willing to listen. You can pray for a better relationship with your parents or for God to place an understanding on their hearts. You can also journal or express your frustration to friends, leaders, and pastors. Sometimes those close to you can help you brainstorm ways to develop a Godly relationship with your parents.
Remember...They are the Parents
No matter how responsible and grown up you thing you are, your parents are still the heads of your household. They are your authority. Even if you don't agree with their rules the Bible still says you are to follow those rules. Whether you look at Romans where the Bible focuses on following authority or just Exodus 20:12 where God commands us to honor our parents, your parents' rules still stand.
Do your best at whatever you do.
You don't have to be perfect, but when you do your best, you make your parents proud. It makes them happy to see how you're turning into such a great kid. Why? Because it lets them know they're doing a good job.
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