One of the worst things that can happen in a relationship is to learn that the one you love is cheating on you. Nothing breaks trust faster than cheating. Few things tear at the heart deeper than the pain caused by being cheated on. But how can you really know if the one you love is cheating on you, other than outright catching them? There are some signs that might help to determine if you are being cheated on.
- Honesty and trust are paramount in a relationship. If you have recently started catching your significant other in lies, chances are they are lying to hide something. This is especially true for a person who has otherwise been honest with you and trustworthy in the past. If a spouse that has previously gone to work and come straight home suddenly begins to work late or make detours on the way home, there's a possibility that he's not working late alone and the detours are probably not at the local grocery store.
- A man or woman that isn't one to go shopping for clothes often who suddenly begins buying new clothes and worrying about how they are looking isn't shopping or dressing nicer or differently for the birds to look at him or her. Chances are they have someone they are interested in making an impression on.
If you start getting phone calls where the caller hangs up when you answer, it could be because the caller wasn't expecting you to be the one to answer the phone. If your spouse is taking calls in another room, where previously this wasn't the norm, it could lead you to ask yourself what they are trying to hide by not wanting you to hear the conversation.
When you and your other half have always went out as a couple together, and lately he or she wants to go out alone, chances are they are not going to be alone at all. While needing time to ourselves is normal and needed, it's a sign to look for when it's not been going on like this before.
- If your man comes in smelling like he's bathed in a perfume bottle or with that tale telling sign of lipstick on the collar, it's not likely that he's been sampling perfumes or having the store clerk kiss his collar so he can sample the colors.
If your other half has always been ready to make love and recently has seemed to lose interest, it could be because they have been entertaining themselves elsewhere. While lose of interest can be attributed to other factors, it can also mean you are being cheated on.
If your other half who has never been much of a fitness person suddenly becomes almost obsessed with how they look, how they dress, wanting to loose weight, chances are they are doing all of this to make an impression on someone. It's important to note that any of these factors listed can be totally innocent. Even all of these signs together doesn't mean your spouse is cheating on you. But it's also important to note that a serious change in behavior and how the person acts towards you is not something to be overlooked. We all want to be loved and wanted and accepted, just as we are. But none of us wants to be hurt or cheated on. If you are suspicious of any behavior, it's a good idea to have a heart to heart talk with your spouse. Don't start out making accusations as they could prove to be false. But do keep your eyes open and know what's going on around you.
Tips & Warnings
Even though these are signs that you are being cheated on, they could also be perfectly innocent things. Never outright accuse, be sure first.
Illustration from Clyde Mendes column at MetroSexual LA