Jealousy around Girls

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Jealousy Around Girls

 
 
   

How often has it occurred to you that you felt insecure and some what jealous of someone else? You see when it comes to the matter of women and dating jealousy is a very common thing but it can be destructive since under the influence of jealousy people end up making several deadly mistakes which harm them in the long term. Read on to discover some of the most earth shattering ways to deal with jealousy and achieve astonishing results.

Keep yourself busy- The reason why we mostly get jealous is simply due to the fact that we keep thinking of the thing which gives us negative feelings again and again. Therefore the best way to deal with this is to keep yourself as busy as possible with things which occupy your mind. Try to make yourself get into situations and circumstances where you have very little time to think about anything negative.

Go meet new girls- This is another very effective way to deal with jealousy. You see the feelings of jealousy are triggered when we feel insecure about ourselves thinking we would not find anyone else like this person. And the best way to deal with this would be to go out and meet as many girls as possible. You see the more social you get the more positive you would be.

Don't fall into the trap- Often girls try to make men jealous just as a trap to test how good they are. You see they do this to get a reaction out of you. This is the reason why you should not react rather show them that you are some what having fun by yourself.

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How to Deal With Jealousy and Distrust in a Relationship
When "paranoia" or extreme distrust, arises in a relationship there are many factors which can be causing it. It is absolutely necessary to understand where these feelings are coming from, or else it is easy to act out in the relationship, blame the partner, put all kinds of unhealthy demands upon him, and even believe that he is cheating on you when he is not. Not only does this destroy his trust in himself and good feelings about himself, but he can easily grow to feel there is no way he can please you, or make you secure and happy.

When an individual gives into these feelings of paranoia, (or extreme fear, suspiciousness and jealousy,) and begins to create more and more restrictions upon the partner, or demand more and more information about what he is doing, this is often the beginning of the end.

Loving another person does not mean possessing them, or having them there simply to help you feel better about yourself. This does not take their needs into account. It is not loving or respectful of them, of who they are.

In all relationships each individual needs time alone, time with friends and of course time together. When we take away a person's individuality and freedom to enjoy all aspects of their lives and grow, we are not behaving in a loving way. Sooner or later the individual begins to feel it, and can feel trapped, misunderstood and blamed falsely. Naturally, they then often think of ways of getting out of a relationship such as this.

If one requires that their partner take away the pain they are feeling, they will be disappointed sooner or later. They are looking in the wrong direction. No matter how loving a person is, no matter how solid the relationship, they cannot take away pain and confusion that exists within oneself. We have to take responsibility for our feelings and work them through on our own.

There are many ways to build self esteem and to feel safe once again. These are tools we use day by day to become strong within. Just as we work out in a gym each day, we need to work on ourselves emotionally to build the strength we need to combat fear and negativity. One exercise that can be used is to consciously look for the positive in yourself and your partner. When you find yourself dwelling upon negativities that can or are happening, step back, take a deep breath, and consciously choose to focus upon what is good and right in both him and yourself. We can and must choose health time and time again. Here is an exercise that offers a wonderful way of turning things around.

Relinquishing Blame
Whom or what do you blame for the difficulties you are facing? In what ways do you blame yourself? Make a list.

Now, notice how blaming simply serves as a screen, preventing you from seeking the full picture of what is going on. See how

Give up some blame today. Go to the top of your list and completely let go of blaming that person or circumstance. Breath deeply as you do this. Send the person good wishes. View the situation much as you would view a thunderstorm. Let the storm pass and create an environment of kindness and clarity where real communication can take place.

 

Dealing with Jealousy
One needs to be aware of the fact that, often, the biggest fuel for jealousy is jealousy, itself. Do you find yourself jumping to extreme conclusions on random event? Do you imagine everybody targeting you all the time? Then you might just be chronically jealous. In this state, you will mostly find yourself driving yourself, and your near and dear ones, insane. Often, it is believed that jealousy is a woman's domain, however, anyone can be jealous. So, for the sake of sanity, let's see how to deal with jealousy.

How to Deal with Jealousy Yourself
Dealing with jealousy for yourself can often be a challenge. The first step along the way is recognizing and admitting to the fact that you are jealous. If you doubt everyone who is close to you, or obsess about a single delay in response, you may be jealous. Lets see how to deal with jealousy, on your own. 

  • First and foremost, you need to control yourself. Life shows each individual several reasons to be jealous. However, that does not mean that each reason can be a justification to the chronic jealousy. So primarily, you need to be able to have control over your own emotions and thoughts, to avoid being jealous. 

  • The second most important of the ways to deal with jealousy is, to have a good self esteem. You may dislike it when I say it, but maximum jealous people have a very low self esteem. That is the reason why they are such easy targets for the jealousy virus. So, if you need to stay away from jealousy, you need to be able to feel good about yourself. This way, another individual's abilities will not affect you negatively. 

  • Third way of dealing with jealousy is to avoid jumping to conclusions. Hurried responses are often the reason for increase in jealousy. Give people the benefit of the doubt. Do not jump to negative conclusions in the first instance. See both sides of the coin and examine all the possibilities. Not only will this delay the jealous feeling for you, but it will also calm you down with positive energy. 

  • Jealousy could be a good thing. This point discusses that possibility. Yes, jealousy can lead a person to have the grit and determination and fire to achieve something more than expected in life. This is where the positive impact of jealousy comes into play. However, if this goes out of hand, the negatives may creep in eventually. So, be cautious and conscious of your jealousy and use it optimally. 

  • Communication is the key. I am not trying to preach. But the fact still remains, that an open hearted discussion can thwart the jealousy worm in no time. In case you are doubting your partner for infidelity, don't feel jealous and anxious. Simply discuss it out with them openly. The conversation will not only bring your jealousy to their notice, but it will also clear your doubts and strengthen your relationship. 

All these are steps that one can simply follow to avoid themselves from feeling jealous.

 


How to Deal with Jealousy for Relationships
Often in a relationship, jealousy can act as the villain. Be it the man or the woman, if either one is jealous by nature, the relationship could be doomed from the very start, whether you know it or not. So, lets see how to deal with jealousy in a relationship. 

  • Do not jump to the conclusion that every friend of your partner's is hitting on them. There is a possibility that many are, and there is nothing wrong with that. However, that does not mean that your partner is also interested in them, right? Often people are not even aware of their friends having feelings for them. So, do not jump to the conclusion right away. 

  • Open communication is the best way to keep a relationship safe from jealousy. The fact about jealousy is, that it can creep into a relationship at any point of time. All it requires is a small crack of miscommunication and leak begins. So, beware, have conversations and discussions and make sure that you know each other well. This can have two fold effects, firstly, there will not be anything unknown to foster jealous feelings and secondly, the un-jealous person will be aware of the jealous person's nature and the transition can begin. 

  • Another requirement for any relationship to avoid jealousy is, trust and honesty. These are the sure fire methods to avoid jealousy completely. Any relationship that thrives on the pillars of honesty and trust, will be away from jealousy, simply because there is no unknown. Just like the fear of darkness, jealousy thrives in the unknown. Honesty and trust are the torches that remove the darkness and eradicate the jealousy. 

  • Giving each other time is extremely important to avoid jealousy. Surveys have showed, that couples that don't get to spend time with each other are often more prone to jealousy. In this case, the jealousy grows to unbelievable extents and drives the couple mad, leading to a bad bad breakup. So, to avoid the drama, just make sure you spend quality and intimate time together. If in a long distance relationship, speak to each other regularly and visit each other as often as possible. 

  • Quiet time is often a great solution to the jealousy problem. So, if your relationship is prone to lots of fights due to jealous behavior, make sure that both of you spend some quiet time and analyze the situation. Yes, this is an anger management method, but it also works for jealousy management. So, be quiet the moment the jealousy erupts and give it time to settle, before you talk. 

Ironically, in a relationship, jealousy can often distance the very person from you, whom you are fighting to hold closer. 

Yes boss, jealousy is a menace, a plague upon the paradise of peace, that can ruin all that is good and true. So, stay away from it. More so, jealousy is the most negative energy that one can put out into the universe, so you can imagine what you will get out of it (hint: negativity). This is where I sign off! Stay sane and stay happy! Cheers!!

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