How To Impress A Girl

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How To Impress A Girl

So how to really impress a girl? Seems like a tough question isn’t it? Well the true art of impressing girls lies in the simple fact that they are not impressed by anything which seems fake or unoriginal. Most guys tend to act or be like someone else just in order to impress girls but never succeed with it. The key here is to be an original as possible in order to impress your girl. Read on to find out some of the best tips on how to impress a girl and achieve desired results.

Don't try to impress- Yes here it is the very big secret in front of you! The best way to impress a girl is not to impress her. Now you might be wondering how does this really work. Well when most guys try to impress girls they tend to become more unauthentic and try to show off with almost anything and everything. Girls are not impressed by such tactics and would end up putting you in the "Show off" category. The best way to impress a girl is to be yourself and let things happen automatically.

Natural talent works- If you thought that girls are impressed by money and material things all the time than you are highly mistaken. If girls are impressed by your money than they are probably looking for money and not you. The best way to impress a girl and retain your status is by the way of natural talents which involve the way you talk and present yourself. You need girls to respect you for what you are and not what you possess.

What do you have? - No girl would be impressed by you unless you have something which is different from the rest. Girls normally get hit on by several men everyday and almost all those men try to impress them with all they’ve got. If you are doing and following the same tactics as all those men than you would never succeed in your quest to impress girls. Show your true self while trying to impress a girl and try to be your best self. Don't talk to her with the quest to impress rather try to do what you normally do. One of the best aspects which almost every girl demands and gets impressed by is intellectuality. Try to develop your intellectual skills. This can be done by the way to reading books and being up to date with the latest happenings. Remember being a good talker is the foundation of impressing almost any girl.

  1. Be well-groomed. Brush your teeth, floss, shower, wash your hair, and apply acne medicine (if you have a problem with your skin) daily. Don't wear your pants off your butt, often called "sagging", it's not that attractive to the majority of girls. This is essential if you are even going to approach an attractive girl. Wear clean, attractive clothes that fit (if in doubt, get an older sister or close female friend to help you in this department). Don't wear skin tight clothes, but don't wear clothes that are too baggy. 
  2. Have a great attitude. Be fun to hang around with, easy to laugh with, and be outgoing. Just don't be full of yourself. A girl may like an overly cocky guy at first, but eventually, she will find it selfish. Don't try to impress everyone - girls like humble guys. At the same time, a sense of humor is always a plus. Girls love it when guys can make them laugh. 
  3. Show respect. If you respect everyone and give them their space, they'll all respect you. With girls, it works even better. If they see you respecting everyone, and not getting pushed around while you're at it, they will be reassured that you will treat them right. Be kind to all. 
  4. Have good conversations. Don't talk about how you beat the King Black Dragon in Runescape... unless you know them well enough that you know they are at least semi-interested (otherwise, it's just a big jumble to her). Try to aim for you both to be speaking 50% of the time, but make sure that you are saying something worthwhile; it's not attractive when only one person talks endlessly. Another thing to watch for is her attention. If she isn't paying complete attention, do not repeat yourself several times. This makes girls feel you are desperate, and usually annoying. 
  5. Show interest in her - let her talk. The #1 mistake when talking to a girl is focusing on yourself. Girls are way more comfortable when they talk about common interests. Ask about their interests, hobbies, favorite books, music, etc. but not in that stalker kind of way. If she asks you a question, answer it in a few, short sentences and then redirect the question back at her. This engages her in the conversation. When in doubt, compliment her. Even if a girl does not like you yet, complimenting her will make her feel good about herself and think positively about you. 
  6. Try flirting! don't be obsessive! If you both make eye contact, do not be the one to look away, but do not stare for too long. When you both make eye contact, just give a slight smile. She may look away and she might blush a little. Be careful though; you don't want to stare her down. A good move is to look away, and if she likes you she will shoot you glances. Watch for that. And be courteous. Open doors. Give Gifts. Do kind things. Girls love that. 
  7. Respect her friends and their ideas and opinions. Always speak highly of her and never talk trash about her. It will damage her reputation and yours and she'll possibly dump you. Of course, her friends are going to tell her that you trash talked her. Hopefully then it will work both ways - she will be tolerant of your friends. Be careful not to compliment her friends too much, however. Example: You may say "Your friends seem cool. We should hang out with them and my friends some time, I think they'd get along". You may not say "Sally is so hot. She has the nicest eyes". You may think getting her jealous is a good idea, but it just makes them angry. 
  8. Have your friends be nice to her It's a fantastic thing when your friends don't make a total fool of you. Warn them ahead of time and avoid topics pertaining to embarrassing moments of your past or awkward jokes that make very little sense.
  9. Be polite to her parents. Be kind to everyone, especially them. Don't be too over-the-top charming with the parents, however, or they'll think that you have something to hide. 
  10. Don't criticize her. Unless she asks for constructive criticism. And even then she probably wants you to compliment her. 
  11. Be romantic, but not over the top. If you've been dating for a while you may attempt a grand romantic gesture (note: "A while"=a month MINIMUM) otherwise, you'll look like a stalker. It's also okay to be a little cheesy, like giving her a bouquet of roses and a loving poem. It may sound like a bad idea, but girls will find it thoughtful if it came from your heart 
  12. Start talking to her casually. If you don't know her, make friendly conversation. Ask for the time, and/or compliment her watch. 
  13. Do not play "hard to get". Sure, you'll get their attention for a day or two then after a while, the girl will end up frustrated or think that you hate her for whatever reason, and she'll think you don't find interest in her anymore. Or if she likes a guy who's like that, her friends might not like you because you're acting like a jerk (this happens way too much). 
  14. Be careful with what you say. Remember, Hotty McHotterson is not your pal Lenny. Do not discuss bodily functions in her presence, or make jokes of a sexual nature unless she starts doing so. Also, don't discuss anything gross or raunchy. Don't talk about bathroom jokes or sexual jokes. She'll get grossed out, and anyway, you're going to find that pretty girls and gross things don't mix... at all. 
  15. Hum a few bars of a song she likes around her. She might think of you whenever she hears that song. And she'll probably be impressed by your good taste in music. Some girls have actually dumped guys or stopped liking guys when they insulted the music they like. So, it's OK not to like her music, but don't be insulting her favorite singer/band! Try to agree with her as much as possible but not so over the top that she knows your not being yourself ("I know, they are the best band EVER!"). Make sure the song is not overtly feminine however. 
  16. Start an inside joke with her! She will feel included and become closer to you. It also gives you an easy-to-come-up-with conversation starter. Try not to overuse it and kill the joke. 
  17. End later meetings with a hug, or plans to meet some other time, if you can. 
  18. Do not tell her that you "like her". Ask her out. 
  19. Try to get her attentions to your plus and away from minus , but be original !!! 
  20. Touch her occasionally, like on the shoulder or hand.(but be sure do not touch the sexual parts like vagina,breast, or hips)! 
  21. Opposites attract. Be a courageous gentleman, not coy like a lady might be. Stand up for her if something is wrong. 
  22. Show your funny side. A lot of women look for sense of humor in a partner. You should however be mindful of their reactions to your jokes and avoid offensive humor. Unless they like that. Find out if she likes comedy. If she watches Comedy Central, find out her favorite comedian or favorite impression and try it out for her. 
  23. Make Her Feel Good. This is a really good thing that impresses girls. They love it when you let them know you care for them. If she's sad, just simply put your arm around her neck. Make her happy. Make sure she is ALWAYS happy. Or at least as much as you can. 
  24. Don't EVER make fun of your friends around her If you do, it might make her think that your a jerk. Even people that are not your friends, don't make fun of anyone around her(Unless they absolutly hate them too). And if you are making fun of someone and she thinks it's funny (for whatever reason) don't go overbored. 


  • If you hold a girl around her hips, it is a romantic move for her. Girls LOVE romantic moves. She will feel important, and that someone actually likes her. If she says to stop, stop. Nothing is worse than a girl seeing you as a harrasser. If she acts a little odd, stop. Don't take it personally because some girls just don't know how to act around guys. Do it another day if this happens. 
  • Some girls may be put off by such early outbursts of physical contact - the problem can be solved by spending more time with the girl. 
  • Show sympathy and affection. If the girl you really enjoy being around is sad or hurt, give her a quick hug. Don't just say that you're sorry and you hope she feels better. This works very well, because then the girl knows you care about her. 
  • If you have braces, glasses and acne... don't be disheartened! Wear contacts, use some Proactiv/Accutane, and voila. Girls put a lot of effort into their appearance, perhaps you should do the same. But don't think just because you have braces, glasses, or acne, that the world is over, sometimes it works! Lots of girls think braces and glasses are attractive, and many girls can get past a bad skin complexion (although they may tease you about it). 
  • Have good posture! 
  • Don't act tough or try to be a thug. This doesn't attract girls. 
  • Don't follow her around everywhere. It automatically gives you a reputation as a stalker, and it will freak her out. Even following her just a little can create a stalker rep., depending on how you act. How you act can determine whether she will actually want you to be around her all the time or if even just seeing your face is too much contact. if you know she sees you as a stalker, lay off because trying to do damage control tends to just worsen your situation, instead try to get a friend of your or of hers to help your issue. 
  • If she just doesn't get that you like her (which most likely won't happen because girls are pretty good at detecting this kind of stuff!) drop hints. 
  • Don't play games. Waiting a few days to call her , showing up a little late to things or anything like that is only proving you are unreliable, a fake and a loser. Likewise, don't tolerate it if she does any of these things to you. 
  • Use correct grammar when texting her or talking to her. If you don't then she will think that you aren't very intelligent and that will turn certain girls off. (E.G. use predictive (T9) text so that you can't spell something wrong in a text, if you're unsure of apostrophes and such just say the full word (e.g. "they're" is "they are", but "their" means a group of peoples' belongings) also if you're not the best at getting this right in conversation then read up on how to speak proper english) 
  • While it's important to connect to her friends, you must avoid coming off as a player, as players make girls feel unimportant and 'just another girl'. If a girl's friends do not approve of you, this will influence her opinion of you. 
  • Don't be weird around her. NOTE: Weird and unusual are different things. Some girls will see your unusual attribute as unique and special, especially if it endears you because it's a secret from one of your friends. 
  • Share a secret with her and hope she shares one with you (e.g., strike up a conversation starting with something along the lines of "Do you want to know a secret?" If she reciprocates then it shows she trusts you and knows you trust her. DON'T be disheartened if she doesn't share one back straight away, she will take your secret as a sign of your trust and this will build your relationship. 
  • Be yourself. Don't be fake. 
  • Don't stand in the back and be quiet all the time, you'll look weird. 
  • Always be careful and respectful with her. 
  • Some girls find it funny when you get hurt.If you start bleeding and you're by yourself, probably a group of girls (and probably the girl you like will be there) will be the first ones to notice you're hurt. If she gets you something to wipe off the blood, that means she cares about you. If she doesn't, then maybe she is trying to play hard-to-get. 
  • Girls like to remain warm and comfortable, if you are walking together then then be close but only if its cold outside (no one likes to sweat) if she says she is cold offer your jacket(ps hugging her from behind usually works, especially if you're taller, girls find this romantic) or hold her hands 
  • Always make girls laugh when they are sad. She will feel a lot better about what happened. Girls love it when you do that and she will have a nice impression of you. 






  • If you have followed all the steps above and it didn't work, don't feel disheartened. Be proud that you made an effort and accept that it wasn't meant to be. If you decide to still be friends, don't be bitter if she moves on to a new guy. 
  • Also, it says above that some girls like to talk about themselves- remember, some girls do. Some also would rather not have you obsessing about her hobbies, sports, etc. Be cool. Relate what she's saying to something about you, and then continue the conversation. 
  • Remember to talk about yourself and your own hobbies etc. That way you come off as a good conversationalist and as a person with a life. DON'T hog the conversations though and be sure to LISTEN and find out about her too. 
  • Every girl is different! Find out if she likes tattoos before you show her the skull and crossbones tattoo on your chest! (It's probably a bad idea to get a skull and crossbones tattoo on your chest (or elsewhere)) 
  • Never rush her or pressure her or show her a bad attitude. 
  • Don't talk about her weight or ask her anything related to this subject. Even the girls with the most attractive bodies have insecurities. Even a comment intended as a joke could seriously hurt her feelings. Leave this subject alone. If she asks you about how she looks boost her confidence, tell her something nice or flirt. 
  • At the same time, keep your own weight in check. Eat healthfully and work out. Don't go too crazy with the body building, but being toned never hurts. Watch out for skinny-fat (where you are skinny but flabby). 
  • Girls love confident guys, but don't be cocky. A cocky guy turns girls off. 
  • If you have problems with shyness, think of the most confident person you know and of what they would do in each situation. Don't be fake, just change your mindset. 
  • Girls like that you care enough to buy them something. Don't go overboard and get flowers for her unless the time calls for it or she is very likely to think you did something wrong. 
  • Some girls don't really know what to talk about with a guy so they might tend to talk about things you don't care about or go on and on about who said what. Don't be mean about it even though you're fighting boredom because it could have taken her a lot of courage to talk to you. Just show interest and change the subject to something more interesting, or politely exit the conversation. 
  • Do not chew gum when talking to her. You should throw it away if there are no trash bins, do not chew with your mouth open, pop, or blow bubbles. 
  • Don't ever talk about sports unless she likes sports. If the girl does like sports, she will probably be happy to talk about them. Another thing, don't boast about how you beat another person, whether it is in a game or sports. You can bring it up, but bragging makes you look egotistical. 
  • Never, EVER make fun of her. If the two of you are still only good friends, but you want to start dating, etc; then don't. Yeah, it would be funny if you said it to one of your guy friends, but It could be VERY offensive to her. And if you DO make fun of her, don't giver her the guilt trip and say "Oh, it's your fault your angry. I was just joking". 
  • Don't ever raise your voice to get a point across. 
  • If you cuss make sure it doesn't bother her or else it'll probably make her mad. Plenty of girls are okay with swearing, but others are not. Be respectful of her opinion. Also, girls don't normally find cursing and fighting attractive, only immature and stupid (unless you are defending her) so be sure to watch what you say and do. 

Illustration from Clyde Mendes column at  MetroSexual LA

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Howtoimpressagirl 12/30/2010 21:36

i feel vry shy infront of girls & feel like getting encountered if something wrong comes out of my mouth.But i have read your post and simply i can sy man you are a love guru.