How to be a Great Mother in Law?

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How to be a Great Mother in Law?

 
 
   
These tips for building a good relationship with your son's wife will help you be a great mother in law! Being a great mother in law can be as easy as being a loving, kind friend. Or it can require a little fancy footwork – such as self-awareness, people skills, and self-discipline. These mother in law do's and don'ts are geared towards a relationship with your daughter in law (not son-in-law) because most mother-in-law difficulties involve problems with a daughter-in-law.

With these tips, you'll learn how to say "I love you" without even opening your mouth. Before you know it, you'll build a good relationship with your son's wife - and she'll think you're a great mother in law.

To be a great mother in law, DO:

  1. Remember that your children and daughter in law have their own lives. If you want to see them, call and ask when they're available.
  2. Be flexible. For instance, if they can't see you on Christmas Day, then gracefully enjoy their company on Christmas Eve. Flexibility is a prime way to be a great mother in law.
  3. Ask "why" if your daughter in law asks you to change your behavior. Ask why to understand better, not to argue or defend yourself.
  4. Be patient if you experience hostility, suspicion, or distance from your daughter in law. Build a good relationship with your daughter in law by not reacting immediately to slights.
  5. Ask before you help with dinner, housecleaning, or rearranging the furniture. Building a good relationship with your daughter in law involves knowing your boundaries.
  6. Accept and learn about your daughter in law's generation, culture, nationality, age, and mindset – which is supposed to be different than yours!
  7. Sign a contract if you lend or borrow money from your son's wife.
  8. Talk openly, honestly, and humbly about miscommunications, arguments, or other conflicts with her. Talk about building a good relationship with your daughter in law and your experiences as a mother in law.
  9. Be responsive to your daughter in law's needs and feelings even if you don't understand them. Building a good relationship with your daughter in law is about empathy.
  10. Treat all your children equally – including your in-laws. A great mother in law is impartial and fair.
  11. Tell mother in law jokes!






 
 

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