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How to avoid the mistakes your parents made in love? I'm writing this article on the mistakes parents made in showing show love to their children. I've noticed that a lot of people who have a large number of children, did not have the time to show their children the proper amount of love and attention they needed in their lives. Years ago, many people had at least six to eight children in their households and the children ranged in ages from a newborn to the oldest being sixteen. There was no way a mother could give all her children the time and attention they needed to properly feel loved.
Many of these children went to bed with a tear in their eyes because they needed someone to listen and to show them love. A simple kiss on the forehead would have benefited the child as they were tucked into bed but most never got any attention at all. The mother would be nursing a baby and getting school clothes prepared for the next day. Was it the mother and father's at fault? I'll have to say no because they had more on their plate than they could handle and they were worn out at the end of a day and they didn't realize they had not been able to show each child love and attention.
I'm from a large family and I can remember the many times love and attention didn't come my way for months on end. These children go through much of their lives feeling neglected and unloved because most times they were not mature enough to realize the stress and strain on both their mother and father, but as the children mature, the children realized their parents dilemma. Years ago, parents did their best to show their children love through keeping them a roof over their heads, a clean house, clean bed to sleep in and food on the table. Back then, parents had to struggle to make a living and to keep food on their tables, the rent paid, and keep trying to make it through another day. They were not to blame for the struggles they had in their daily lives, it was an every day occurrence for almost every family.
In today's world there aren't that many children in a family and I'm sure the people who felt neglected and unloved by a parent tries to show their children the love and attention they never received in their lives. Children need to feel secure and have a feeling of being loved and cared for by their parents, and we, as parents, should realize this and make a special effort to say, "I love you" and to give them a hug and a kiss every day of their lives. We cannot allow our children to run wild in the streets and neglect them by not providing them the proper attentions and not teaching them what is wrong and what is right.
When parents care about where their children are and who they are hanging around with; how they are doing in school; attending their children's sports activities; have curfews for their children; attend school counseling meetings, etc., these children will realize their parents loved them and cared about them and their futures. Children who are taught to obey, love their siblings, do their chores, taught self-confidence and self- esteem will survive in this world and know their parents did this because of their love for them.
Illustration from Clyde Mendes column at MetroSexual LA