Maybe you just met the guy or girl you want to ask out or maybe you've had a crush on them for a while. Either way, you'll never get together if one of you doesn't make the first move. Here are a few tips on how to ask that special someone on a date.
Time Required: 5 minutes
Take a deep breath and try to stay calm. You want to seem interested in the other person but not desperate for attention.
Think about why you like them. In your head, make a list of a few things you could talk about with this person -- or a question you've been wanting to ask them.
Give them a call or find them online. Or, if you're brave, get them alone after school or somewhere that you often see each other.
Ask them if they can talk for a couple of minutes. If it's not a good time to talk, ask them when a better time might be.
When you find a good time to talk, have a conversation about something you have in common: a class, a neighborhood, a favorite band or sports team, etc.
Once again, relax. Laugh when the other person says something funny. Listen to what they have to say. Be yourself.
Tell them that something they just said is really great and ask them if they'd like to hang out sometime.
If they say yes, make plans about when and how you want to get together. Good for you!
If they say no, give yourself a pat on the back for trying. Everyone gets turned down sometimes, and you'll have plenty of chances to use this technique in the future.
- Above all else, be yourself. You want the other person to like you for you, not some phony version of you.
- Have an idea of what "hanging out" might consist of: a movie, a trip to the park, a get-together with some friends, etc. Share your idea with the other person and ask what they think.
- Try to do this when you're feeling good about yourself. If you've just received good news about something, there's a great reason to call up the person you like and spread the happiness around.
- If you get "no" for an answer, don't dwell on it. You're just as great as you were five minutes ago, but with a bit more dating experience.
Illustration from Clyde Mendes clumn at MetroSexual LA