Fear Or Phobia?
Everyone has things they are afraid of of, including kids. If you ask an adult what he or she is afraid of, he or she might answer, "failure," or, "being alone," or some other slightly more abstract concept. Or he or she might mention one of the common fears, such as, "heights," or, "spiders." Ask a kid what he or she is afraid of and you might hear more of those "height" and "spiders" type of answers. That's all fine, and it's all really very normal.
But for some people, including some kids, fears taken on a bigger place in their lives. The fear becomes debilitating, and impedes the ability to function normally. A person - parent or child - might go out of his or her way to avoid any situation in which the fear might have to be acknowledged. I person can feel completely out of control when thinking about this thing of which they are afraid and the fear can trigger panic attack-like symptoms. When this happens, it's more than a fear - it's a phobia.
Kids have fears, too
Just like adults, kids have fears and kids have phobias. Kids can be afraid of just about anything (just like adults), such as taking a test or big dogs or just about anything else. When it's a phobia your child is dealing with, the response of all involved can be challenging: your child may even have a hard time understanding why he or she responds to things in a certain way, and adults may dismiss the behavior as irrational and without basis - or become upset or even angry in response to it.
Getting angry in response to fears and phobias is no help to anyone, and may serve to may a child feel worse about the situation. Validating fears is the first step to helping kids manage the fears and hopefully resolve them over time - whether it's a "simple" fear or something more complex. Then you can manage the fear or phobia in two parts: the response to the fear or phobia by both the child and the parent, and the fear itself.
Some people - kids and adults - find it helpful to learn as much as they can about whatever they are afraid of. While understanding, for example, the physics of lightening and the safest places to be during a thunderstorm might help them manage the fear, it may also serve to help avoid that of which they are afraid more thoroughly. That can be good or not so good, depending on the situation.
When to get help
For some people, including kids, phobias that interfere with every day life and the enjoyment of it may need a professional's help to manage and treat. Your child's pediatrician may be able to help you - or may be able to refer you to someone with specific expertise in helping kids manage phobias - whether it's a fear of heights that is making taking stair to their classroom at school difficult, or just about anything. Regular reassurance that you'll be there to help your child is important, too.
Almost all people have fears of some kind or another, and many people have real phobias. Helping your kids learn to manage fears and phobias early can help reduce negative impact of those issues going forward.
Fear of Teenagers
Do you have or know someone who has anxiety, worry, and Fear of Teenagers? Read about the symptoms, causes, anxiety issues and ways to overcome the Fear of Teenagers.
What Is Fear of Teenagers
eenagers provide proof that life will go on. They are often vibrant, strong and enthused about the prospect of living. Many will provide leadership within their school and they will probably go on to provide leadership as adults. Many notable teens have established websites that have captured the attention of millions and continue to make their mark on the world. However, there are those who have a profound fear of teenagers. This fear is known as Ephebiphobia.
In most cases teens are oblivious to the idea that there may be adults (and even children) that fear them.
What Causes Ephebiphobia?
This fear is unique in that in most cases a teen will comply with the request of an adult they perceive as an authority figure. However notable exceptions that have been either personally observed, discussed with friends or viewed on television and in movies can alter the perspective of an individual. This perspective can add a tentative response to teens that can lead to fear.
If an individual is shown disrespect by a teenager they may observe the teens personality, strength and outspoken nature and conclude they are stronger than themselves. This conclusion can actually lead the ephebiphobe to conclude they are the weaker party in any confrontation with a teen.
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The fear can also be the result of observing an older friend or relative who was pushed around by a teenager (relative, neighbor or even stranger). This would be an example of a transferable fear.
Symptoms of Ephebiphobia
An individual with this fear may not willingly have children of their own. They may panic if there appears to be the potential for confrontation with a teenager. They may rationally understand they will likely be viewed as an authority figure, yet the potential for confrontation renders them fearful.
Other symptoms may also include…
- Panic attacks
- Air hunger
- Elevated heart rate
- Running from anyone who appears to be a teenager
- Social anxiety
In many cases the phobic personality will fear teens based entirely on the belief that the teen can and will use physical force to harm them. In a very real sense the fear is a fear for their lives. This may be true even when no credible threat actually exists.
How to Overcome Ephebiphobia
Fearing a teenager can lead to fearing children or other adults. It is a doorway to extreme social phobias. The best case scenario is to deal with the fear and learn to manage an appropriate response.
It may be impossible to fully remove yourself from the fear, but you can learn techniques to manage your response to the fear stimulus.
A therapist can provide the insight needed to deal with the fear. They can work to discover what other fear(s) might be pushing this fear to the forefront. There may be issues from childhood that have contributed to the phobic response or personal experience that provided a lopsided view of teenagers. In all cases a therapist can be very helpful in the management of your personal fear.
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