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You want to please your wife? You want her to feel satisfied? Feel appreciated? Do you want your wife to put you back on the top of her priority list? Below are 5 ways to get your wife excited today!! When you please your wife, that can only mean very good things for you, in everyday life and in the bedroom.
Please your wife by...
playing vigorously with your children. I can tell you that when a woman sees her husband playing with their children, it is a big turn on. When you think of an activity to do with the children on your own and you execute that activity showing true interest in them, you might as well pull out the satin sheets because you're getting lucky. Most woman are very conscience of the fact that children need attention and love from both parents for important emotional development. When a woman sees her husband giving his children the time and energy that she thinks they deserve, she feels excited and appreciative.
Please your wife by...
remembering special occasions. Remembering birthdays, anniversaries and and special dates tells your wife loud and clear that you truly care. But, when you think outside the box and remember dates that she hardly remembers, she will go wild with excitement. She will not only feel special but will feel like you are thinking about her more than she thought. How about taping a note to the coffee maker in the morning that says "Happy 7 Years Since We Met". Your wife will be figure out instantly if you are right and then she will call her best friend to tell her that you remembered. Please your wife by... cleaning anything. When you do any single chore that she doesn't have to do, she is less bogged down. As mothers and wives, our to do lists are never ending. While we would love to climb into bed with our husbands and think only about love making, we usually can't do that easily. When our husbands help us and make a serious effort to cut down on what we have to do, we feel thankful for his willingness to help and less overwhelmed by what still awaits us. If you already do a lot around the house, as you should, do one more thing a day and sit back and watch her reaction. Your wife may not notice your new haircut but she will always notice a chore that is off her list. Please your wife by... complimenting her. You may think that she already knows that you think she is still beautiful, but she can never hear it enough. When you express kind words towards your wife, she feels a renewed love and appreciation for not only you but herself. She remembers, even for a brief second, that she is a lovely woman and that has a husband that loves her. What more could she want? She wants and needs to be reminded of how you feel about her. Please your wife by... showing her affection. Showing your wife affection is another sign that you love and appreciate her. Hugs and kisses are obviously great ways to show your wife love but there are so many other ways to show affection in subtle ways that send a message of love. Why not hold her hand on her way to the laundry room? Put your arm around your wife while watching TV or rub her back as she makes dinner. Touch her back as she walks by, kiss the top of her head for no reason, touch her whenever you can. Show her that you want to touch her in and out of the bedroom. Please your wife by... spending as much time with the family as possible. When you are able to get away from work and spend time with your family, do it. The key though is to spend quality time. Turn off your cell phone and the computer and give yourself to your family. Let them see your complete abandon for time. Your wife will again feel appreciated and your children will feel special too. Please your wife by... giving her small gifts. While buying her gifts is not nearly as important as your attitude and actions described in the other tips, gifts can play a role to please your wife. If you can afford a nice little gift here and there, do it. Buy her something that she truly likes though. Think about something she liked way back in college that she hasn't had in a while. Did she like garlic pickles? If so, find a place that sells them and show up with one. Pleasing your wife has a lot more to do with performing in everyday life and less about performing in the bedroom. Showing her that you love her everyday by touching her, relieving her of some of her duties, showing love to the children, and spending time with your family will surely please your wife. How to Get Your Wife in the Mood for Sex and Romance - Part I Want to know how to get your wife in the mood? Would you like to know how to improve your sex life with your wife? Would you like to have sex more often with your wife? Do you want her to want you? No, I don't think you know what I mean, I mean REALLY WANT YOU! This article will give you some steps to help your wife fall in love with you and turn up the heat in your bedroom. If you are willing to learn a few new tricks (who said old dogs - oops, guys - can't learn new tricks?), commit these techniques to your memory, exercise your patience by committing to dedicating yourself to implementing these steps for the long haul, and have the ability to develop a true loving servant's heart then you will be simply irresistible to your wife. A servant's heart is willing to humble themselves to serve others without expecting anything in return.
Take 5 to 15 minutes every day upon waking and before entering your home to do an attitude check. Look for thoughts of selfishness, and manipulative ideas inside your thoughts and check for an agitated impatient mood. When you are tired from a long day, exhausted from a ton of deadlines, angry from the boss getting on your case, or frustrated from hours of traffic and crazy drivers, your attitude and demeanor will change. Leave it outside your home - get rid of it, let it go, give it to God, pray to release it, symbolically drop the weight of cares at your door before walking in to greet your wife or children.
It might be necessary to pray for some divine help in revealing your selfish tendencies and also pray for help in overcoming them and getting rid of them. Selfishness, ulterior motives (selfish motives), and impatience will cause you to do these steps or things for your wife and expect an INSTANT return. If your wife "feels" this coming from her husband, it is a turn off and it stinks - women, especially wives, can practically smell these traits so eliminate them FAST.
Listen to your wife's complaints each day and write them down. Study your wife and think about what your wife always complains about. Then next time she starts venting, take mental notes and then transfer these quickly to the paper in your notebook or to your journal for improving the sex and romance in your marriage.
Refuse to allow yourself get mad or feel irritated about her complaints or even to take them personally, mentally imagine your wife is a business consultant and all the "complaints" are really the keys to unlocking the passion in your marriage once you figure out how to solve them. Her complaints are no different than a business or marketing consultant or staging specialist who is paid to walk through a business or home to point out everything that needs improvement so that it can generate the most income or be sold for the highest price.
These things that are so irritating to your wife about you, the house, or the kids - once you fix them - will make you so irresistible that once resolved you will not be able to keep her off of you or quiet because she will be telling all her friends about what an amazing spectacular husband and lover that she has at home.
She fell in love with you and married you because she thought you could solve some serious empty spaces in her life. Once married, you probably forgot this and became busy after you won her in marriage or had children. If you become good at solving her problems again (needs expressed through complaining), you will turn her on to you sexually, physically, and emotionally.
Apply some of your solving powers to fixing her problems and complaints.
Let's say that your wife is a great cook, loves to cook, but complains about the dishes. This is a sign that she REALLY doesn't like doing them. Some women are quiet about what they don't like, if that is the case, just point blank ask your wife what she doesn't like - don't get mad about what she says, write it down (anger is not usually very attractive, it is usually ugly and a turn off).
The next time she cooks a nice dinner, get up after dinner before the food crusts and hardens on the plate and start cleaning the dishes. Rinse them, load the dishwasher, and run it. Or wash them by hand and set them out to dry. If you have got a lot to do, put on some fun music and dance while you do them.
Your wife will probably enjoy watching you from afar and wonder what in the world got into you. Not only are you doing the dishes but you are having a fun time doing it - you are singing, dancing, shaking your booty, and NOT complaining or huffing. She will probably watch you and wonder, ah, what is he up to. I wonder how long this will last... Or if she is mad at you, she might think "oh, he wants to get some, well hymph I will show him!" If she chooses the latter approach, determine that your good attitude will outlast her and win her heart back and spark the flames of passion. Usually people don't fall in love with lazy, complaining, selfish people-women fall in love with and find men irresistible who are active, positive, joyful, and helpful without having to be prodded or asked (nagged).
Remain dedicated to continue to solve her problems, without complaint, and without getting frustrating or telling her that you want the bedroom to heat up. Stand firm and be firm about being a great lover to your wife - firmness emotionally is a hint of great things to come.
Some men, many men, blow it right here. They do the dishes a few night while she is observing them and then they complain. They reveal they had a motive and now you are in the dog house after washing a bunch of dishes.
Respect and honor the differences between men and women. If you think about this-you will see how silly many marital issues really are. When you met, you loved her difference from you - her curves and her different attitude and approach on life. It enhanced your life experience, so you continued dating and married. After marriage, sometimes we unwittingly try to give our spouses a sex change emotionally.
Men are like microwaves, women are like ovens that need to preheat. Your wife needs some time to observe you and let it simmer in her mind while her libido starts to slowly, S-L-L-O-O-O-W-L-Y picks up. She is going to want to see if you are up to something, if you are being manipulative, and if this new helpful you is going to last.
She might also need a few weeks to get some energy back from doing most of the chores, research shows that women, whether they work or not, do most of the chores and work with the kids and this saps her energy. She is probably going to talk with her friends about your new behavior (or her counselor or life coach!) and she will need to think on it.
Stick with your plan, no complaining, solving what bothers her and saps her energy. Also be available in the bedroom, be flirtatious and charming, and try to create an atmosphere and environment of romance in your home and bedroom so that you can have the mood and space set for sex when it happens. Remember, if you are dead tired with a mile long list of things to do - sex feels like work; however, if you have some extra help and support from your spouse that meets your needs and allows you to re-energize, then you will be ready to devote your extra new found energy into passionate love-making with that heroic sexy husband who learned how to make your life more enjoyable.
How to Get Your Wife in the Mood for Sex and Romance - Part II
Once you have taken care of the things that drain your wife's energy and put her in a bad mood from Part I, now you are ready to set the mood for romance and sex. Some people believe in scheduling sex; however, if you set the mood for romance sex will follow naturally and spontaneously.
Clean up your home environment, make your castle more peaceful, serene, and clean. If there is clutter, trash, candy wrappers, unused toys, clothes, etc. all over your home then it is not a good stage for romance. The reason hotel rooms are so wonderful for sex and romance is not because they have the best beds, highest quality furnishings, or original art work because most don't. The reason is because they are clean, uncluttered, and devoid of work to be done, toys to be picked up, dishes to clean, and clutter to deal with.
Put the laundry in the baskets, a husband is so much more attractive when his wife doesn't have to smell his super stinky socks days after day as she picks them up off the floor. Women also like intelligence in men, that is sexy, and if a husband cannot seem to remember where his hamper is, that makes a woman questions his intelligence, sense, and memory but more importantly it makes a women question whether he loves and respects her if he just cannot find that laundry basket.
Pick up the kids toys when you walk by them. If you don't have a place for them, buy a toy box. Need something cheaper, buy a $6 tote with a lid at Home Depot or Lowes. Need something cheaper still? Take a free cardboard box from the grocery store (ask the workers in the back), cut off the flaps to close it making it an open cube, then spray paint it a nice color to match your wife's decor - cheap spray paint. Now put the kids toys in the box, help the kids clean up each evening, and now you will free up some time and space for sex later.
Put the children to bed early, get in the habit of putting them to bed early or if your wife likes to bath them and put them to bed, clean up the kitchen.
Not just the dishes. Clean the dishes or load and unloaded the dishwasher. Wipe down the oven or stove. Wipe down the counters and the dining table with a paper towel or rag and hot soapy water. Sweep the floor or run a swifter mop over it.
Put out some nice flowers from the store.
You will need to know what kind of flowers your wife likes and what colors she likes. It is possible to buy one flower in the right color and stick it in a vase or a wine bottle to make a lovely centerpiece on that nice clean dining table.
Add some candles around the flower on the table.mm
A combination of scented and regular ones work nicely. To get the most bang for your buck, light one scented candle and set it in the best spot to diffuse the scent. Then light the other candles and display them in the right appealing spots.
Turn on some romantic music.
This means love songs that your wife likes. Her favorite artists since you are trying to get her in the mood. If you don't know this, ask her what her favorite artists and songs are and write them down so you don't forget.
After the children are down early, sit down to a romantic dessert with your wife.
Ask her about her day. Tell her a little, a positive brief, about your day. Talk to her about what she wants in the future, where she would like to go on vacation, etc. Try to learn about your wife, she is not the same woman you married. She has new likes and dislikes, new dreams and goals, new colors, new flowers, new movies, and new music artists.
How to Get Your Wife in the Mood for Sex and Romance - Part III
Learn to start your wife's day off with romance on her mind after you have made time for romance and sex in How to Get Your wife in the Mood for Sex and Romance Part 1 and set the stage for romance and sex as explained in How to Get Your Wife in the Mood for Sex and Romance Part 2.
Why do wives rave about bed and breakfast inns years after going? Instead of having your wife talk about her experience at a bed and breakfast, learn some of their service tips so you wife will be talking to her friends about what an amazing lover and husband she has!
Get a flower for your wife.
You might need to buy one the day before and hide it wrapped in a plastic bag or paper bag in the back of the refrigerator so it does not wilt.
It is more convenient and cheaper to have some flowers on hand, check out How to Get Your Wife in the Mood for Sex and Romance - Part IV Growing Love
In the morning, make a preferred breakfast beverage for your wife.
Coffee can be made by setting the pre-set timing before you go to bed, brewing a pot of hot coffee in the morning, or making a cup of instant by putting a cup in the microwave to heat up the water and add a few spoonfuls of instant coffee to the water by following the directions.
Tea can be made by heating a cup of water and placing a bag in the water or leaving the bag next to the cup for her to complete.
Juice can be poured into a glass and a slice of fresh fruit can be added to the cup for a nice presentation. Juice presents well in a nice elegant wine glass.
Water with ice can be made with a slice of lemon, lime, or orange on the side. It also looks nice with circular slices of lemon, lime, or orange inside the glass.
Presentation is important to men and women. Just like a husband wants his wife to look good, people like their drinks and food to look good too. [A wife is a husband's glory, if your wife looks tired or irritable and is not presenting well anymore, you might want to consider how you are talking to her, treating her, helping her, and providing her the time, money, and support in getting the essentials like wardrobe, makeup, and hair updates. A wife reflects her husband's love and care, as well as the words he washes her with the majority of the time]
Set flower next to the breakfast beverage - coffee, tea, juice, or water.
Place this on her bedside table, the breakfast bar, or on the dining room table. If you have a nice porch and she likes drinking her cup of coffee or tea there, place it there.
Make sure it is a place where it is safe from kids and pets, so that no spills or injuries occur from a hot liquid.
Place a nice note next to the beverage and flower.
The note can be written on an a piece of paper, a sticky note, an index card, a napkin, or paper towel.
Write something like:
"Wife, I have not appreciated you like I should have during our marriage. I want you to know how special you are to me and how much I love and care about you. I am sorry for being so selfish. Please forgive me for my error. Enjoy you day. Love always, Husband"
This note will get you a lot further than "Wife, I love you, Husband." Yes, it is a bit long and you are admitting a flaw - your neglect; however, humility and apologies are appreciated by wives like good food is appreciated by husbands.
It is possible that if you write that note or one real similar to it where you admit you have been neglectful, a jerk, a dud, too selfish, etc. that you will stir up the romance more. Why? People have different love languages and apology languages, that note addresses a few languages where a quick one might not hit the spot she needs hit. You must turn her heart on to turn her libido on. She might also question your faithful and search for a book or the internet site where you are getting this information, just ignore and take this as a compliment because your efforts are working.
If you want a nicer looking note, there are several quick things you can do - like cut out a heart or print some FREE notes and cards.
Cut a heart out of a piece of paper and write a note on that.
Print out several note backgrounds or pictures that cards can be made from so that you have a little stash to use in the future. The photos for purchase or card backgrounds are also reasonable, about 20 cents an images which is a lot less than a card at the store. Just like a car needs a refill of gasoline, if you want the passion in your marriage to burn red hot - you will need to be an active lover.