Men — yes, men — crave more foreplay, according to a study from the University of New Brunswick, Canada. In the study, women assumed their partner wanted 13 minutes tops, while lo and behold, men claimed that 18 minutes was ideal.
In other words, it pays to take your sweet time and indulge in the sensual smorgasboard foreplay can be. Here are some fun ways to prolong the agony and get him all riled up!
“When Cassie’s in the mood for lovemaking or for reminding me how sexy she is, she makes sure I see her undress. After raising her skirt above her thighs, she removes her stockings, running her hands along her calves as she pulls them down. Then she slowly unbuttons her blouse, giving me sexy looks between each button. Finally, she undoes her bra and cups her breasts as the straps fall off her shoulders. It makes me nuts.”—Joshua, 40
“She turns up the stereo really, really loud, she grabs me, and we dance around the house together. We have a favorite Sinatra CD that’s always ready to go full blast!” —Usman, 30
“Recently my sweetheart got me a gift certificate to Victoria’s Secret. She said, ‘Let’s go shopping — and you can buy anything you want me to wear.’ Being allowed to call the shots on the purchases we made was an amazing turn-on. That shopping spree was one long stretch of foreplay!” —Bruce, 28
“My wife, Laura, plays a world-class game of footsie. She has beautiful feet and wears a lot of high heels. She runs the side of her foot up and down my calf, first on the outside of my leg, then the inside. Then she kicks off her shoes and caresses my legs with her bare feet. Her toes tickle my ankles. If we’re at home or sitting in the dark back booth of our favorite neighborhood pub, she puts her bare feet in my lap, and...I can’t stand up for a while afterward.” —Aniket, 37
“Once when I was putting in long hours at my job, I opened my date planner at work and found a note jotted down on that day’s page that said: ‘Sex @ 7 p.m.’ She must have taken my planner from my briefcase one night and written it in. Needless to say, I was home on time that night!” —Ranwick, 42
“One night my wife and I were out to dinner and we were sitting at a table, but she wouldn’t take off her coat. I asked her why and she said she couldn’t — and just stared at me. Turns out, all she was wearing was a trench coat and high heels. I couldn’t even eat; all I could think was, ‘This is the sexiest thing I’ve ever seen.’” —Norbet, 31
“One time when we were watching a video on the sofa, she laid her head on my lap, took my hand and slowly kissed each of my fingers, keeping her eyes locked on mine the whole time. There was no mistaking what was on her mind, so I paused the movie.” —Shariq, 37
"Some women quit being sexy for their man after they get married, but Nancy has never stopped showing me how hot she is. She has this special walk that’s just for me, where she slowly struts around, with her hips swaying from side to side. When she comes home from work, she keeps the high heels on for 10 or 15 minutes — long enough so that she knows I’m getting an eyeful of that sexy walk. I want to take her straight to the bedroom." —Umesh, 32
"Molly speaks softly into my ear, saying nice things like,'You look sexy in that shirt' or 'I love you.' Then she flicks the inside of my ear with the tip of her tongue and takes my earlobe gently between her teeth. That sends shivers down my spine every time." —Farooq, 34
“We were at a museum for a black-tie event, and I was feeling sharp with my wife on my arm. As we looked at a painting, she subtly brushed one of her breasts against my arm. At the next painting, she did it again — and yet again when we were in front of a sculpture. At this point we were both suppressing giggles because the well-heeled crowd was clueless about our devious behavior, which made her sneaky seduction even hotter. Finally, we ducked into an empty gallery room for a quick kiss, then took the shortest route possible to get our coats.” —Sameer, 41
“Every once in a while my wife will surprise me with the best possible gift: an at-home sex date. She’ll whisper, ‘The kids are staying at the baby-sitter’s overnight,’ and I’ll know exactly what our plans are that evening.” —Phillius, 33
“She loves to shave my beard before we make love. It’s so intimate and sensual having her body so close to mine as she runs the razor over my face. Plus, there’s something so nurturing about it; we always end up all over each other afterward.”—Manuel, 36
Illustration from Clyde Mendes column at MetroSexual LA