| || || | Ladies, here's a heartening news flash: Thin is NOT in. Men crave curves.
While American women see super-thin stick models and feel unattractive and unhappy about their average or curvy bodies, men don't feel the same way. Fully 80 percent of men ages 18 to 50 say they want a voluptuous woman, according to former plus size model Nancy Hayssen, who has written a book every woman could love based on the title alone: "101 Sexy Secrets: How to Be Hot, Sexy & Beautiful at ANY Size!" Another 15 percent of men prefer a woman of average size, while just 5 percent opt for a super skinny lady.
Twenty years ago, most fashion models were a size 8. Today, that's been replaced by an emaciated size 0. Meanwhile, during those same two decades, the average American woman, who stands 5' 4", ballooned from a size 10 to a size 14. Fun fact: A 14, which is now considered a "plus size," was approximately sex bomb Marilyn Monroe's dress size.
"We're being lied to everyday. The fashion industry and Hollywood have spread the myth that men want skinny, anorexic-looking women," asserts Hayssen. "The truth is it's plus size or curvy women who are considered beautiful."
That sentiment was echoed in a recent poll of 4,000 adults conducted by British weekly magazine Grazia to find out the ultimate attractive man and woman. Men overwhelmingly said they are most attracted to women who have curves, rather than skinny women, and prefer brunettes with "long, wavy hair." And 78 percent said a woman's most attractive feature is her smile.
Men are a practical lot. Three-quarters said the hobby they find most attractive in the opposite sex is cooking.
So what do women want in a man? A stunning 93 percent are looking for someone who makes them laugh, while 73 percent want someone who will "automatically" pay for a meal. Men who own their own home are five times more attractive than a man who does not. OK, so women are practical, too.
Most men will say they like curvy women.
Being curvy is great. Everything is enlarged in a curvy woman and men love that. Just because media says that thin women are beautiful it has nothing to do with a man's attraction.
If a man is attracted to a curvy woman, no matter how long he stares at a skinny woman , he won't change his preference.
Most thin women have less curves and most big women have more curves. It is very rare to find a skinny woman with natural very large breasts. Many men and women are even obsessed with breasts. What does it tell us? It tells us that yes, many men are attracted to curvy women!
If you are a big and curvy woman, it is good too. Many men are attracted to bigger or average curvy women. Having big breasts, big butt, can be a turn on for many men.
Just because fashion magazines show tall skinny women it doesn't mean all men are sexually attracted to such women. Many men are sexually attracted to any body type, but some men prefer big or small women. Love your body, love your curves and there is a man out there who would love how you look too.
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But what each person considers "curvy" can be different. For example, I consider myself a curvy woman, because I can find many curves in my beautiful body. Usually, I don't emphasize my curves enough when I dress, because I don't think it's very important for me, but if I tried, I could easily emphasize my curves with certain type of clothing.
If you are a tall skinny woman, you can try it too. Experiment with clothing and show your curves more.
Many people could argue with me whether I'm curvy or not. I look thin, yes. So, my curves maybe not the biggest curves in the world, but I like to think of my self as a curvy woman. Many men love my body type, so thin is good for some men, but many men love big curvy women too.
Do I want to be more curvy? Not really. I was always surprised to see how many women want to enlarge breasts and even other parts of bodies, because I never had such desire. I like the way I look, maybe because I never had lack of male's attention. Having more more curves probably would even increase sexual attention from the opposite sex if that's what you want.
Some women really want any attention, sexual or not, so they will do anything in order to get it.
I certainly don't mind that not all men love skinny women, it doesn't bother me at all. There are still many men who love skinny women with smaller breasts. I had enough sexual attention in my life already and it isn't something that I'm looking for right now.
Having breast implants I think is a big price for women to pay for increased attention and attraction.
If you have many curves and you don't like them, remember how many women are really going under the knife in order get those curves! Think about men who love big breasts and who think the bigger is better.
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Do men like skinny or curvy women better? Do they prefer women who are thin enough to turn Ally McBeal green with envy? Or would they much rather hang out with women curvy enough to make Brad Pitt look their way? The debate between skinny or curvy women may go on forever, but men will almost always gravitate to a single preference -- and it's a natural thing.
Certain skinny women in the media, like Paris Hilton and Lindsay Lohan (at one point), made the whole "skinny look" in. While some men do prefer skinny women, it's never a good idea to force yourself to slim down that much. It isn't healthy!
Some women think skinny is the way to go so much that they starve themselves to almost look anorexic. This definitely isn't good for attraction, since men by nature hesitate to date women who look malnourished. They may not eat much, but since they're likely to get sick every now and then, they can still come off as "high-maintenance." Read: Turn-off.
On the other hand, some women go great lengths to look as curvy as they possibly can. This usually entails going under the knife -- plastic surgery, implants, and dermatology. A little of this can be okay, but too much and you might end up looking like Dolly Parton. She may be hot, but you might scare men away.
So do men really like skinny or curvy women? The truth is that they gravitate towards the middle ground. And you can't blame them for playing it safe -- nature designed men to gravitate towards mates who look like they can become good mothers.
Nature aside, fit women really are more attractive than overly skinny or curvy women. Fit women show that they take great lengths to eat right and exercise regularly, and these women enjoy more energy to actually live an interesting life. Think Michelle Obama. Case closed!
Illustration from Clyde Mendes column at MetroSexual LA