Share article Do Guys Think You're "Easy": Do Guys Think You're "Easy" A reader recently reached out and told me tha ...
Do Guys Think You're "Easy"
A reader recently reached out and told me that she noticed a cute guy on a flight to Texas with an empty seat next to him. She took the opportunity to sit down and get to know him. They talked the entire three-hour flight, and then said their goodbyes without exchanging contact information.
When her guy friend picked her up, she filled him in on the story of the flight and he told her that her behavior could be perceived as "easy." She asked me if I agreed, and I told her I'd love it if a woman came up to me and initiated conversation. I'd be flattered. If I was attracted to her, I'd be thankful that I didn't have to figure out a way to make contact. But we all know I'm lazy and insecure.
Regardless of my weaknesses, when a woman makes a move to talk to a guy, she looks confident. There's always the chance that the guy is thrown off because he's more "traditional." I believe women have just as much right to make that first move, and it certainly doesn't make them look easy.
"Easy" isn't about making yourself available by making a move on a guy. And it's not about one-night stands. In fact, of all the one-night-stands I've had, I never assumed any of the women were "easy" (possibly because I find all women challenging). I gave them the benefit of the doubt that the incidents were isolated moments in their lives where the one-night-stands just happened. Besides, it takes two to tango — so I was probably "easy" to them.
The standard definition of "easy" for men is basically the same as "slutty": a girl who "puts out" frequently with different guys. I decided to point out some signs/behaviors that some guys look for that might indicate a girl is "easy". Walking up to a guy and having regular conversation is not one of them:
Unfortunately, guys make assumptions. "Easiness" is much more complex than just getting with lots of guys. Sure, some women out there just like casual sex, but many
men do as well. If there are some guys out there that assume a woman walking up to a guy and starting conversation is easy, then there are plenty of other guys who would be thrilled if a woman
struck up a conversation with them.
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