| || || | Is Your Husband Being Covered in prayer by You?
You've been married for 5, 10, 20 years or more. Some of you have been married for so long that people now say the two of you even look alike. In fact, you've been together for so long that now you're not even embarrassed to let out impolite sounds in front of your spouse anymore. Yet, despite all the good things you can attest to, you still have a growing laundry list of complaints about what you think is wrong in your marriage.
One of the most important questions a wife could ask herself is this: "Am I an intercessor for my husband?" Do you intercede regularly on your husband's behalf? To be an intercessor is to intervene in prayer on behalf of another person. Are you covering the head of your household in prayer daily? Are you first and foremost asking God to change anything in you that is not of Him? To change you so that you might have the marriage He originally designed for your life? Or are you so secure in your past accomplishments that you would be shocked to know that there are a few things that God wants to change in you?
Do you understand your position as a wife? In Genesis 2:18 the Lord God said, "It is not good for man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him." Proverb 31:26-29 describes a godly wife as one who "speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all." God knows all about the responsibilities that you have, but He also knows that He has created you for greatness and empowered you with superwoman abilities. You know multitasking is no big deal to you. You are the Queen of Multitasking. As a woman He has equipped you with unique gifts. You already possess everything you need to become the queen of being an intercessor for your husband.
Perhaps, you've been married for years and feel you've reached the end of your rope in your marriage. I'm pleading with you today; seek your heavenly Father in prayer before giving up. Mark 11:24 says "Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours. And 1 Peter 3:12 reads "For the eyes of the Lord are over the righteous, and his ears are open unto their prayers: but the face of the Lord is against them that do evil." I sincerely believe the number one method we can go about solving the problems in our marriages is to genuinely seek the Lord in prayer. No, we can't change people, but we can make the decision to change something about ourselves. We can decide to become a determined intercessor for our husbands. Pray the order of God in your household.
We can pray believing that praying changes things. I believe, a praying woman has the abilities through prayer to change the atmosphere in her home. How do I know that prayer changes marriages? I know this because, after a few short years of being married to my husband, I desperately wanted to get out of it. I sought the Lord in prayer. I pretty much told God flat-out that I wanted to leave my marriage. God clearly told me "No." I was stubborn, though, and continued to pray, and begging God to release me. Each time His answer was the same. "No." I pleaded my case by saying my husband does not know you God. Then God clearly brought my attention to 1 Corinthians 7:14-17 "For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife? Nevertheless, each one should retain the place in life that the Lord assigned to him and to which God has called him. This is the rule I lay down in all the churches."
Even clearly hearing God say that, I still tried to leave. However, God effectively blocked every attempt I made. Then one day I fell to floor and said, "Okay, Lord. What would you have me to do?" He clearly told me to go "Prostrate Before Him" in prayer, interceding on my husband's behalf. The more I prayed, the more I noticed a change. I couldn't believe it. I was stunned. It was as if He had given me a simple floor plan to heal my broken marriage, and it worked. My husband surrendered his life to Christ. Within months our marriage took a complete, 180-degree turn. I continued to be confident and diligent in my prayer life. I can now attest without hesitation that prayer changes everything.
Illustration from Clyde Mendes column at MetroSexual LA