For many teenagers, hair and clothing is as important to them as food and water. Whether it's tattooing, body piercing, or the latest look in clothing, teens express themselves through what they wear and how they look. And if we remember, so did we!
Body markings today is like the long hair and outrageous clothing of the sixties; our hippie generation. It's this group's way of being outrageous and different. To your child, a piercing or tattoo is an outward expression that says, I'm growing up and making decisions on my own, even if they offend you. It's a normal part of the maturing process. Legally, you are responsible for your child until the age of 18, you can say no, but how do you respect your teen's need for independence and avoid the rebellious behavior?
This self-expression is usually a short-lived phase. There is a very small window of opportunity between the ages of 13-19 where it's okay to have blue hair, a shaved head, and hole-filled jeans. This window of opportunity is a time for us as well to celebrate the changes that our teens are going through and their growth into adulthood. However, when it comes to tattoos and body piercing, parents are concerned what happens when the fad fades. This is where a lot of talking and education is neededdecisions need to be made. With this in mind, try to approach your child's desire to make a body alteration in a rational way. It's best to remain calm and unoffended when your child talks to you about these issues. It's important to talk together about the following factors:
- Passing Fads-- Remind your teen about other fads and trends that are no longer in style. Explain that while last year's flared pants can easily be exchanged for this year's capri's, a piercing or tattoo is a physical change that's much harder to discard when the trend changes.
- Appearance Ask your teen how he wants to be viewed by other people. Talk about the impact a pierced tongue or eyebrow might have on that perception. What about a fading tattoo, a wrong name when a relationship changes and even the expense and pain in tattoo removal. Talk about other ways your child might express individualism and independence through writing, choice of clothing, hair, or even in a part-time job choice.
- Health ConcernsIt takes a long time for the body to heal from a piercing or tattooit's uncomfortable too. The most serious risks are bleeding, allergic reactions, and infections caused by hepatitis, HIV, tetanus, bacteria, and yeast.
- Compromise If you can't stand the thought of your child with a tongue bar or a tattoo, come up with a solution you can both agree on. Maybe you'd be more apt to accept a third earring or even a navel ring. Other options may be removable temporary tattoos that last up to four weeks, clip-on or magnetic rings for the lip, nose or navel, and glue-on studs for the nose.
- Time Ask your teen to think about the decision for a set amount of time. At the end of that time, talk with your child again about the reasons for wanting the piercing or tattoo and possible side effects. Be honest about your feelings too.
Risk before you pierce or tattoo:
- Bacterial infections, Hepatitis B and C, and tetanus. Tattooing carries the risk of acquiring HIV. Allergic contact dermatitis (severe skin irritation) and keloids (thick scarring at the sitetattoo or piercing). Possibility of excessive bleeding. Damage to nerves (You may lose feeling at the area that gets pierced.). Dental damage (swelling and infection of tongue, chipped and broken teeth, choking on loose jewelry).
- Blood donations cannot be made for a year after getting a tattoo, body piercing, or permanent makeup.
- Some people are allergic to the tattoo dye and their body will work to reject the tattoo.
- Tattoo removal is very expensive. A tattoo that costs $50 to apply may cost over $1000 to remove. Sometimes removal may cause permanent discoloration of the skin.
- Make sure all instruments for tattoo or piercing are packaged, sterile equipment that is thrown away in special biohazard containers.
- Healing time varies from a few weeks up to a year.
If you decide to allow your teen to pierce or tattoo a body part, make sure you take these precautions:
- Choose needles over piercing guns. According to the experts in body piercing, these guns are rarely sterile, quite traumatic to the body tissue and often inaccurate. A piercing needle is safer and carries less risk of infection or injury.
- Make sure the person doing the piercing or tattoo is a licensed/certified practitioner (A certificate should be on display.) and wears sterile, disposable latex gloves.
- After you get home, have your teen follow directions using alcohol, and/or antibiotic ointments.
- Watch for any redness, swelling, or pain at the site of the tattoo or piercing. If these do occur, consult your physician on the best way to treat them.
- Choose jewelry made of gold, silver, platinum or stainless steel. The less expensive jewelry often contains nickel and zinc, which can cause allergic reactions like itching and rashes.
Teenagers and Tattoos - Psychologists Have it Down Pat
Teenagers’ struggle for identity has been dramatized and psychologically examined numerous times and older adults have to accept the fact that it’s a mindset that’s deeply ingrained in the teenager’s stream of consciousness. They are just discovering the world, discovering their own bodies and forming bonds and relationships. We therefore ought to give them the time and space, allowing them to make decisions regarding their bodies – up to a certain extent. It would be negligent for a parent to say, “I’m giving up on my daughter. I don’t have the stamina to argue with her anymore. If she wants to cover her whole body with tattoo art, so be it.”
“So be it” may have serious consequences. If you had the facts on tattoo you two can go to lunch and talk it over. Share what you know.
Psychologists say that part of the adolescent’s development is searching for a specific identity. They live in turbulent times and tattoos give them a sense of control and an outlet for individual expression. Andre Martin, who wrote an article on teenagers and tattoos, said that “Tattoos and piercing can offer a concrete and readily available solution for many of the identity crises and conflicts normative to adolescent development. In using such decorations, and by marking out their bodily territories, adolescents can support their efforts at autonomy, privacy, and insulation. Seeking individuation, tattooed adolescents can become unambiguously demarcated from others and singled out as unique. The intense and often disturbing reactions that are mobilized in viewers can help to effectively keep them at bay, becoming tantamount to the proverbial "Keep Out" sign hanging from a teenager's door.”
There’s also the quest for permanence according to Martin. He said that an adolescent’s desire to cling to a current certainty could motivate him to put down in ink what is valued and cherished today, but may not be the same thing that is valued and cherished 12 months down the road.
What does the Bible say about tattoos
The Bible warns us against tattoos in Leviticus 19:28 (Amplified) which says, "Ye shall not make any cuttings in your flesh for the dead, nor print or tattoo any marks upon you: I am the Lord."
I know some will have a hard time receiving this teaching because tattooing has now become an accepted practice in our society. However, just because society approves of something does not make it right in God's eyes. Our society at large, also approves of abortion and divorce as well. However, the Bible makes it clear that God doesn't approve of these things.
In sharing this teaching, I am not trying to condemn anyone who already has a tattoo; but rather to warn those who are considering getting one. God loves us, and even when we make mistakes in poor judgment, He doesn't condemn us, but rather tries to help overcome the consequences of those mistakes. Having a tattoo will not keep anyone from serving the Lord. We know some very godly people who have tattoos and are serving the Lord and their tattoos do not interfere with what God is doing through them. Anything Satan tries to use for evil, God can turn and use it for good when we commit totally to Him. God takes us as we are and uses us if we will yield to His will. God will use any of us when we come out of the world and start serving Him with our whole hearts to do His will. Our past is under the blood of Jesus and the sins and mistakes of the past will not hinder our God in our serving Him. Only a hard and unrepentant heart keeps us tied to the old life.
There are many dedicated and sincere Christian people that have tattoos. This article is not meant to say they do not love the Lord. God not only can use them, but does use them. The issue is not whether God can use someone, but rather should Christians pursue getting tattoos? Just because something is popular does not mean it is right. We should always examine things by the "roots and the fruits" of the thing in question.
TATTOOING HAS WITCHCRAFT "ROOTS
In addition to the above verse, Scripture also warns us not to disfigure our bodies in following verses:
1 Kings 18:28: "And they cried aloud, and cut themselves after their manner with knives and lancets, till the blood gushed out upon them."
Deuteronomy 14:1(Amplified): "Ye are the sons of the LORD your God; you shall not cut yourselves, nor make any baldness on your foreheads for the dead."
When it speaks here about doing this in relation to the dead; this was a witchcraft rite done to mourn or remember their dead. Therefore tattooing, cutting one's body and shaving one's head in defiance have their origin in witchcraft practices. Tattoos have their "roots" in witchcraft. Many young people today are doing these very things because of some evil witchcraft influences in their lives that they are unaware of. They do not realize that partaking of these can open the door to wrong and defiling influences in their lives. Evil videos, depraved rock music albums, wicked Internet games and violent movies are displaying evil trends in order to destroy our youth. Satanic tattoos, skin heads and other cultic rites are opening many of our children to demonization.
This is what makes it spiritually dangerous for people. People do not realize displaying a satanic mark or symbol can open the door for Satanic attack which allows the enemy entrance in their lives. It is not the mark itself, but rather the sin behind it. Today this practice is growing because of the spread of False Religions. Some people are so hideously covered with tattoos that their appearances look evil. Others, only have small tattoos that they believe are trendy or artistic.
Now this article is not meant to hurt or offend those that have tattoos, but rather to help people avoid getting tattoos that later on they might regret (especially young people). Many tattoos have evil and witchcraft themes that are portrayed as devil faces, skulls, ugly demonic signs, vulgar pictures, etc. These things hurt the human spirit, just as satanic displays of any kind do. Some tattoos are obviously Satanic as they look devilish, while others may be flowers or innocent looking names or objects but it is the spirit behind this compromise that makes it dangerous for a Christian. God loves the person who has tattoos just as He loves all of us. However, He would rather we did not deface our bodies in any fashion.
Some people object to using Old Testament scripture as a reference to tattoos since the New Testament doesn't speak of these things. However, in the New Testament we are even called to a higher law. We are to have God's laws written in our hearts. When we remain close to the Lord and obey Him, He can direct us in things that are not good for us. For example although the Bible does not say, "Thou shalt not smoke" or "Drug addiction is bad for you;" we know that these things are destructive to the human body. In the New Testament, we are told to glorify God in our bodies. This would include not marring our bodies with tattoos, as the principles in the Bible clearly tell us it is wrong to defile our bodies.
OUR BODIES ARE A TEMPLE
When the Lord created man and woman and placed them in the garden along with His other creations. He spoke these words in Genesis 1:31, "And God saw every thing that he had made, and, behold, it was very good. And the evening and the morning were the sixth day." When the Lord created the human body, He pronounced that the way He created it was very good. The Lord desires that our bodies be a reflection of His own beauty. When people tattoo their bodies they are tampering with what the Lord said was very good the way He made it. We should never mark our bodies as this is unnatural. Our bodies are the temple of the Holy Spirit and we are admonished not to defile them. Tattoos on one's body is like graffiti on a wall. Having tattoos on our bodies does not glorify God.
1 Corinthians 6:19-20: "What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's."
What is it within man that makes us dissatisfied with the way the Lord made each of us? Most people are not happy with the way they look so they seek ways that will cause them to feel better about themselves or cause others to accept them. This is not wrong when it comes to having good grooming habits, but we need to understand true beauty comes from within, not from what we wear or how we look. When the emphasis is put on the outward appearance we can be ensnared in vanity, rejection, fear, pride and even racial discrimination. One of the most wonderful things about receiving the Lord is that He wants to deliver us from the outward things that we think we need to feel good about ourselves. When we are in sin we do not feel worthy or acceptable, but through Christ we are. When we can fully walk in the knowledge that we are acceptable before God through Christ, we are then free to be the person God made us to be without having to create a different image. Many people are consumed with trying to be different or become acceptable not only by getting a tattoo but by other things as well.
Some Christians argue that they have the name Jesus or some Biblical word or sign tattooed on their body so they can witness by the tattoo. However, God is more concerned how we are living our lives than by displaying a religious mark on our body. That is not the highest way He would have us witness. The Lord would rather us witness to others by the character of Christ being demonstrated in our lives than display Christian slogans that many times are not matched by the life of Christ. Certainly, the Lord can use a tattoo of a cross or other religious symbol when a Christian has one of these as God knows the heart of the one who truly wants to share Christ with others. However, it is not necessary to use any worldly thing to attract sinners. It is the Holy Spirit who draws people to Christ through any yielded vessel of the Lord. When we pray and witness to others the Lord will cause them to listen.
Just because a person has had a tattoo, it will not prevent God from using people to witness nor keep them from being a minister of God. God looks on the heart and can use different things to testify of Christ's love, even tattoos. However, well- meaning people can be deceived in their methods of evangelism.
THE YOUTH CULTURE AND TATTOOS
I really believe that one of the compromises we see today is parents allowing their children to mark or tattoo their bodies. Christians can look at someone who has tattoos all over them and know by discernment that it is not God, but the same Christians may get a small tattoo themselves or allow their children to have one without thinking anything about it. Toy makers today even sell washable ink transfer kits so children can mark their bodies with designs. This may seem like a harmless game but this is the enemy preparing or setting up our children early to receive real tattoos later on.
Many young people today do not realize that they may be sorry in the future that they chose to put tattoos on their bodies today. We know of many people who have said to us that they wish they had not been foolish when they were young as now they must live with the reminder of what they did when they were young. Only a few people have the money to have them removed by laser.
Years ago our young boys in the military had to go to foreign lands to get a tattoo, now tattoo parlors are everywhere because our nation here in the U.S.A. has opened its doors to many heathen practices and false religions. Another danger in receiving tattoos is a medical one through faulty procedures. One of the latest discoveries of another way AIDS is being transmitted is through contaminated ink or dirty tattoo needles. If fresh ink is not used, then the last person who was tattooed who had any kind of transmittable disease could leave behind that virus or bacteria. Not only Aids, but Hepatitis as well, has been traced to tattoo ink and needle contamination.
Some young people are having them done in defiance and rebellion to their parent's wishes because they want to be like their friends. This is displeasing to God as the Lord tells children to honor and obey their parents.
Colossians 3:20: "Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord."
The reason so many people are deceived on this issue, as well as others, is that there is a lack of knowledge in the things of God and a lack of discernment in the body of Christ. Hosea 4:6a says, "My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge." Many have not been taught nor grounded in the Word of God. We as church leadership owe an apology to the youth of our day because many of us have failed in our responsibility to speak out on the issues of the day and have allowed the influences of the world to shape our society. Many Christian parents have failed in their responsibility also, as they have been too involved in chasing the American Dream instead of raising our children in the nurture and admonition of God as commanded in the Bible. Ephesians 6:4: "And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord."
One note of warning to the church on this subject of tattoos. We have a generation now of young people that love the Lord yet do not understand all of His ways. Soon we are also going to be seeing a great revival among the youth of the world. The youth of this day want a real cause to live and die for. Most have not seen true Christianity. However, when they do come to Christ many will be bringing their tattoos, dress, music and old habits with them right into the church. We must be sure that we do not despise them nor look down on them, but rather welcome and love them and gently teach them the ways of the Lord. We are called to love and pray for them and help them avoid making some of the mistakes we have made in our own walk with the Lord. We need to be true mothers and fathers to them. Yes, we must speak the truth in love, but let us make sure we are loving them and not condemning them. On the other hand, we must not accept all that they would desire to bring with them that would harm them and compromise the Word of God. We will all need God's grace to bridge the generation gap. We would recommend a great article written by a young Christian on this very subject. Click here to read "Bridging the Generation Gap."
If you, through ignorance, have received a tattoo or allowed your children to have one, you should pray against any evil or witchcraft that may have come through the circumstances when that tattoo was received. Some people receive tattoos before they are "born again" and after they are touched by the Lord, they wish they had never had it done. The Lord loves you, so do not come under any condemnation, just pray over them and ask the Lord to remove any spiritual influences denoted by the tattoo and He will do it. The Lord looks on our hearts and motives and judges us by those, not our outward appearance. However, if the tattoo bothers you and you cannot cover it, you can have it removed by laser surgery.
The bottom line for this issue would be to ask the popular youth slogan, "What Would Jesus Do?" I don't believe we will ever see Jesus with a tattoo. The only scars on His body are the ones put there by evil men that crucified Him. They were not self inflicted. Overcomers will put away anything that leads to bigger compromises.
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