How well is your relationship doing? How regularly do you maintain your relationship with your partner? Is your relationship on a smooth ride or is it on a bumpy surface? Here are some tips to help you build a sound partnership with your spouse.
- In any relationship, effective communication is the keyword. If you must overcome the stress that is building up negatively between you and your spouse then learn to handle your communication well. Both of you should be able to communicate what you intend without misunderstandings.
- You need to learn and imbibe the art of listening to your partner. Your spouse must be able to know that you are paying attention when he is discussing with you. You should be on eye contact level with him while listening.
- Arguments cannot but arise in any relationship. It is a means of getting to understand issues from other peoples' perspective. But how well you resolve the argument is a measure of how healthy the relationship will be.
- As couples that are striving to live a happy life, you must be supportive of each other in every aspect of the other's endeavors. This will help to build the confidence in the partner and strengthen your bonding together.
- Relationships can be seriously threatened by poor financial control in the home. Therefore, you must show a good level of understanding in financial issues and apply wisdom in your expenditures. As much as is possible avoid impulsive and unbudgeted expenses.
- If your relationship must be on a sound footing, you must not ignore spending time together with your spouse every day. No matter how short a time you have to be together, make sure it is regular. You can take a walk together in the evenings, hold hands and exchange notes on the interesting aspects of the day. Plan together for the home, children's education, vacation, etc. You will be amazed at how close the two of you will become. Be creative in your discussions and avoid being a bore. Take time out to let your spouse know how you feel.
- Building a healthy relationship requires you being open to your spouse. If there is any feeling of hurt express yourself in a loving way bearing in mind that your spouse also can be emotional and become offended by your presentation of feelings. The important thing is to have an open mind to resolving issues when they come up.
- Your relationship is as good as your intimacy in bed. You have to have time for sexual intimacy as often as you can. Failure will result in suspicions from your spouse. You know what that means in a relationship. Don't you? Remember you have a responsibility to your spouse to satisfy him/her sexually.
- Honesty is the cornerstone for any successful relationship. If you start out lying, you're digging your own grave. The proverbial "writing is on the wall" and it spells DOOM. If you start out untruthful, the only way your liaison will last any length of time is if the both of you are liars. A sort of a "birds of a feather" situation. You've seen it before, you go out on a dinner date with another couple and they lie like persian rugs throughout the entire evening.
- Communication helps build rapport and is essential to the longevity of any relationship. You hear it so much it's now a cliche', "you have to communicate", "communication is key", "keep the lines of communication open." Also, "never go to bed angry." When you don't communicate with your spouse, girlfriend/boyfriend, significant other, it's tantamount to the Bush Administration refusing to talk with our adversaries. You have to sit down like two adults and not only open up the lines of communication, but you must keep them open. There is no other way around it, you must talk. The irony of couples who fail to communicate is that they will share darn near anything with a friend, co-worker, or even a stranger, in regards to their relationship.
- Start out trusting your mate. Give him/her the benefit of the doubt and rely on each other to keep their word. You put trust out there; a trusting relationship is what you get in return. You put out bitterness, disdain, and jealousy, what you'll get is distrust, a communication breakdown, and a dysfunctional, ephemeral affiliation.
Illustration from Clyde Mendes column at MetroSexual LA