Bad girls are legendary — a guy who’s been with one practically passes out from bliss when he talks about his experience. You might be thinking, “Who, me? Be a bad girl?” But any woman who wants to can wake up her hibernating vixen...and have a damn good time doing it!
See, bed-devil status is about a fearless attitude, not how much sexual experience you have or whether you wear leather. “Guys dig when women are unbridled and uninhibited, push their own boundaries, break the rules, and ask for what they want,” says Barbara Keesling, PhD, author of The Good Girl’s Guide to Bad Girl Sex. So we boiled down the naughty qualities that make some women stand out, then came up with seven audacious ideas for putting them into play. These tips and tricks will forever crank up the heat in your sex life.
DARE: Be the Boss in Bed Tonight
A wickedly sexy woman knows how to deliciously exploit the power she has over a man. Tell your guy to lie down on the bed, then use handcuffs, scarves, or a necktie to tether his hands together so he can’t touch you. (If you're not game to use real restraints, you can simply hold his hands over his head.)
Next, "you want to torture him playfully with your teasing,” says sex expert Candida Royalle, author of How to Tell a Naked Man What to Do. “Slowly kiss your way down his torso, and just as you get to his pelvis, move back up to his ears and neck.”
As you tantalize him and he strains to touch you, ask him to tell you why he wants you so bad, explaining that you won’t let him free until he convinces you. Once he’s pleaded his case, release his hands, roll onto your back , and allow him to take over. After building up the erotic anticipation, it’ll be like setting a windup toy loose on your body...and
DARE: Slip Into a Naughty Costume
To infuse your sex sessions with more attitude, sometimes all it takes is looking the part of a true temptress. “One of the ways a woman can really show off her sexuality is by playing up different sides of her erotic personality,” explains Jamye Waxman, author of Getting Off.
If you’re feeling like a flirty, girlie tease, put on a white cotton undie set or pale pink lingerie and pull your hair into a ponytail, or don a schoolgirl-like plaid miniskirt with an oxford shirt tied above your navel. To become an X-rated seductress, wear something red or black in sheer fabric or lace, then add crimson lipstick and nails. “Outfits not only help you get in the moment, they also give him a visual turn-on and inspiration,” adds Waxman.
Just standing there in your flimsy finest may be enough, but a few teasing lines will definitely get the ball rolling. When playing the innocent card, say it’s your first time, and ask him what you should do. As a seductress, whisper all the different ways and places you want to touch him.
DARE: Learn to Talk Dirty
Moans and sighs (Oh! Oh!) are easy. It’s the dirty dialogue that really puts a triple-X stamp on your sex sessions. “Talking dirty heightens the whole experience, keeps you both present, and turns you on even more,” says Royalle. “Plus, men actually like being told what to do in bed because it helps them get it right.”
First tell him how freakin’ good he feels. (Tongue-tied? Try no-fail lines like “You feel so/You make me [adjective]”; “I love it when you [verb] my [body part].”) Then you’re set to show him the way to send you soaring, with something like, “Oooh, almost there. I need your [noun] on my [body part], just like this.”
DARE: Watch Yourselves Having Sex
Body confidence and carnal curiosity are key traits of a sex goddess, and both are on full display when you make a sex tape. “Seeing yourselves midact gives you a voyeuristic thrill, almost as though you’re peeping into your own bedroom. It feels taboo,” explains Royalle. “You also get to see how your partner is responding and how you look when you’re getting off.” If you’re worried about becoming the next Kim Kardashian, skip the tape and just hook the video camera directly up to a television in your bedroom — without recording — and watch yourselves while you’re going at it.
Since missionary doesn’t exactly make for good TV, get into racier positions where you’re facing the camera. Go for doggie-style so you can both see the action or girl-on-top so you can watch exactly how you move. And definitely get shots exchanging oral sex so you can see the orgasmic effect you have on each other.
DARE: Summon His Buried Bad Boy
Bad girls are known to capture a few prisoners in the sack, but a bold bedroom chick also enjoys enacting her own fantasies, shame-free. And one of women’s top fantasies is to be taken. “It’s a turn-on to feel like he wants you so bad, he just can’t help himself,” explains Keesling. “Plus, when he’s being aggressive, you have to fully give up the reins, which can help you be even more in the here and now.”
Instruct your guy to hide behind the door and “surprise” you by taking charge when you get home one night. He can either have his way with you right in the foyer or pull you into the bedroom. Or let him know that you’re in the mood but want him to conquer you, caveman-style, even if it means playfully wrestling you to the bed as you try to slip out of his grasp.
DARE: Give Him a Jolt
Breaking out of your touch-here-then-lick-there routine adds a lusty layer to the erotic experience. And fearless sexual playmates know that unexpectedly intense sexual maneuvers are even more exciting. “A forceful touch snaps your guy into the moment and heightens every sensation that follows,” says Royalle. “The spontaneity also keeps him anticipating each touch, magnifying his excitement.” Plus, the implied roughness invites him to tap in to his primal, wild sexual self.
Grip his butt hard while in missionary, scratch his chest and the sides of his torso while in girl-on-top, or yank his head toward you to give him a passionate, damn-straight kind of kiss. If those moves elicit an excited response, firmly spank his butt, lightly bite his shoulder, or tug his hair in the act, you devilish thing.
DARE: Try Some Naughty Props
Do something unexpected with toys you already have lying around the house.
Hairbrush: A hard-bristled hairbrush is perfect for gently scratching his skin.
Rolling Pin: Run this baker’s basic over his back and thighs during an erotic massage.
Blush Brush: Skip the pricey feathers you find at sex shops, and use this to tickle his neck, chest, arms, and package.
Illustration from Clyde Mendes column at MetroSexual LA