| || || Years ago a woman cheating on her spouse was unheard of but in modern times the number of women who cheat on their spouse is growing exponentially. The differences in men and women cheating is that men often cheat for physical reasons while women often have emotional reasons for cheating on their partner. The reasons why women cheat include loneliness, revenge, boredom and self esteem. These factors may be inexcusable but they do exist in the minds of a cheating woman. More and more women are becoming guilty of cheating on their partners and it is often emotional reasons rather than lust that drive them to these affairs. |
Loneliness is one of the primary reasons that women seek out affairs and cheat on their partner. Although it sounds contradictory that they should feel lonely because the women are currently in a relationship, it is often a relationship that is not emotionally fulfilling. Women involved in these unsatisfactory relationships may feel as lonely if not more so than women who are not in a relationship. If a woman is not receiving the attention she feels she deserves in a relationship, she may be tempted to seek that attention elsewhere and become involved in an affair. A partner who becomes overly involved with his work or a hobby may not make time to spend with his partner and this often results in the women feeling as if they are all alone. This feeling of loneliness can drive a woman to cheat on her partner. One of the most prevalent reasons why women cheat is that they feel as though their current partner is not lavishing much attention on them and they feel lonely even in his presence.
Revenge has also become and increasing factor in why women cheat. The modern woman is no longer willing to sit back and accept the fact that their partner may cheat on them. If a woman confirms or even just holds a suspicion that their partner is cheating on them, they may be driven to engage in an affair of their own as an act of revenge. The theory of, ‘An eye for an eye,’ has unfortunately trickled down into the realm of romantic relationships and many women see a cheating partner as a justification to have an affair of their own. They believe that they are justified in having an affair if they catch their partner cheating on them. Furthermore they may be extremely hurt by their partner’s actions and seek a way to hurt them in the same way. While it is not a justifiable reason, many women see revenge as an appropriate reason for cheating on their spouse.
Boredom may also factor into why women cheat. Their current relationship may have fallen into a rut and lost the excitement that it possessed in the early stages of its existence. They may feel that their relationship has become dull and predictable and rather than trying to bring excitement into their current relationship they may pursue affairs in the hopes of achieving the excitement they felt when they first became involved with their partner. While an affair may bring about a temporary solution of making the woman feel excited about love again it may ultimately destroy both their current relationship as well as their cheating relationship. An affair is exciting not only because it involves a relationship with a new person but also because it involves sneaking around and ultimately getting away with doing something wrong. To many women this is very exciting and they are willing to risk losing their relationship over their affair. Many women cheat because they are bored with the monotony of their current relationship and they seek to bring excitement back into their life through engaging in an affair.
Another reason why women cheat is a lack of self esteem. Women may feel that they are not getting an adequate amount of admiration from their partner and they may be tempted to cheat to affirm that they are still attractive and desirable. When a relationship meets a stagnant point where the partners are no longer making a conscious effort to reassure each other that they are still desirable, many women begin to feel insecure. This insecurity leads women to seek affirmation of their desirability outside of the relationship in the form of an affair. Being found desirable by another compensates for the lack of longing they feel from their partner and helps to boost their self esteem. While women with a healthy self esteem are more apt to remain happy in a relationship, those that lack self esteem are often driven to cheat on their partners.
Men are not the only ones who cheat on their partners. It is becoming more and more common for women to be guilty of cheating. While women are beginning to cheat as often as men the reasons why women cheat are much different than the reasons why men cheat. The reasons for women cheating are tied tightly to emotional reasons such as loneliness, revenge and boredom.
Divorce rates continue to rise, so it is no wonder that many people worry that their spouses may be cheating. According to the University of Chicago's National Opinion Research, 15 percent of women and 22 percent of men cheat. While men do cheat more often than women, there are factors to consider regarding female infidelity.
According to truthaboutdeception.com, women are much less likely to cheat than their male counterparts. Surveys have consistently shown that women are more faithful than men (see Resources).
Women tend to be emotionally involved when they do cheat. Unlike men, women typically do not engage in one-night stands.
Because women become emotionally involved in their affairs, they most often cheat with someone they know. This is usually a co-worker, or a friend from school or church.
A woman generally cheats with someone who has a higher status than her husband. This can be either financially or in terms of treatment or sensitivity.
Because women become more emotionally attached, they are more likely to leave their husbands. Women put a greater emphasis on affairs than men do.
Women will use cheating as a way to "get back" at their husbands. This is rare, though more common in women than men.
Reasons Women Cheat
You’re doing all you can to fight back the tears and convince yourself that you won’t be a punk when it comes to this. Yet no matter how much you try to stick to your “manly” guns, you find yourself tossing and turning at night, repeatedly asking this one question…
“Why did she cheat on me?”
You’ve contemplated several scenarios in an attempt to explain her behavior, yet this whole thing feels more complicated than that Lauryn Hill unplugged album. Well allow me a chance to provide some clarity to your rapidly deteriorating relationship by sharing with you “6 Reasons Women Cheat.”
- You Changed
Once upon a time, you were the most romantic and thoughtful guy this side of Cupid. Somehow that all changed though, and now your romanticism is a thing of the past…kind of like Keith Sweat’s music career. Maybe your job had you bogged down. Or perhaps your financial situation drastically changed. Now that I think about it, you may have just gotten lazy. Whatever the case may be, she found someone else to fill the suddenly huge void you left in her life.
- The Thrill is Gone
You used to rock her world. These days, the only thing that’s being consistently rocked are the kids to sleep. The sad part is that I receive at least 9 to 10 emails a week from women who all claim to be bored out of their minds with their husbands and boyfriends. They say you’ve become robotic, and that the relationship has gotten too predictable. You give the same gifts, say the same things, go on the same dates, and have sex the EXACT SAME WAY. Now I’m by no means excusing their behavior, but if the roles were reversed, what would you do?
- Escape Plan
In her mind, it was determined long ago that you weren’t the man for her. But instead of just coming out and expressing this, she tried to find an “easier” way out of the relationship. So she cheated, and purposely got caught. (Fly fact: If you actually think you caught her because you happen to be some kind of super-sleuth, then you’re actually more delusional than Flava Flav’s fashion stylist…and his personal groomer…oh, and his dental hygienist too.)
Now that she’s been caught red-handed, the ball is in your court, and the tough decision is no longer her responsibility. Mission accomplished.
- Self-Esteem Issues
Some women deal with issues of low self-esteem that seemingly can’t be repaired by the love and attention of one man. So instead of just allowing you the opportunity to love her, she seeks the validation of multiple men, which in some twisted way makes her feel more loved. (It’s almost as if she’s running for public office, and needs to collect as many votes as possible to validate her candidacy.)
If you didn’t believe in karma before this happened, I’m pretty sure you do now. While I’ve never been an advocate of exacting revenge within a relationship, the bottom line is that she ONLY did this because you cheated first. So the next time you look in the mirror, I need you to repeat the same phrase I make Michael Jackson say every morning…
“I did this to myself.”
- She’s Just No Good
As much as men get a notoriously bad rap for being no good, there are many women out here that are just as dirty. There’s no real rhyme or reason to why they can’t be faithful…they just like to get around. In fact, you’d probably have a better chance at getting Lester from “227″ a new acting gig, than you would at convincing her to stay on the straight and narrow. In those types of situations, you can’t blame yourself for her actions. Just recognize what it is, and get out while you can.
Fly Guy Moral:
Now that you’ve gained a better understanding of why women cheat, do you feel any better? I didn’t think so. Understanding why someone cheated won’t make the pain go away any faster. That can only come from a sincere love of self, and from the love of a higher power; who in my opinion is the only one truly capable of healing and restoring your broken heart.