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If you and your spouse aren’t currently dating, we want to encourage you to get into that habit. The two of you really do need time to reconnect and continue to stoke the fires of the romance that brought you together in the first place. Your marriage needs to be strong to withstand the onslaughts of daily life. When you know that you both are on the same team working toward the same goals and cheering each other on, then even the toughest competition won’t be too much to handle.
If you’re thinking you’ll just go to dinner and a movie – that’s a good start. But if you’re going to spend the money on the date and a baby-sitter anyway, then make the date count! It’s what we call having a “date with a purpose.” Intentionally give your time together a purpose beyond just sharing an event. Focus on your mate’s love needs. Put him or her in the spotlight and nurture your marriage relationship.
Here are a couple of date ideas to plan for your mate to help you begin dating with a purpose.
A Wife Plans a Date with her Husband: Getting Cozy with Coffee
Go to a coffeehouse or a cozy café. Choose a place where you’re not likely to run into anyone you know. Interruptions aren’t allowed! You can go for dinner, a couple of big cups of specialty coffee, or a dessert. Splurge a little! Don’t think about calories or how much that big cup of cappuccino is costing – just do it! Sit so you can look at each other as you talk and hold hands. This kind of setting is made for conversation.
A Husband Plans a Date with his Wife: A Long Drive Together
Take a long walk or drive. If you walk, go somewhere you won’t run into people you know. If you drive, preferably head out to a rural road where you won’t deal with traffic. This is a time of communicating together, but it is not so threatening because you’re not sitting and facing each other. Open up some snack and drinks, and get talking. If you come across something fun or interesting – like a roadside stand or an antique shop – and your wife say, “Oooh,” then stop and check in out! If your car allows, have your wife sit right next to you. If not, find a way to hold hands as much as possible. If you’re walking, hold hands and walk as close to one another as possible. The physical connection will draw you closer and make it easier to talk.
So, sit down with your spouse today and tell your mate you want to take him or her on a date. Set aside a day and time, put it on the calendar and don’t change it! Use one of the ideas we shared with you, or be creative and come up with your own idea! Just get that date on the calendar and get started dating with a purpose!
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